My brother again

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My brother is dropping out of University because of chronic depression
Our parents annoy him immensely and he's struggling to feel close to anyone other than me
When I was home for Easter holidays he spoke to me more than my parents
He also seemed genuinely happy to talk to me, but grumpy and impatient with my parents
I'm back in school now so he posts things on my facebook wall and tags me in photos
I'm confused with my own emotions again
I know he's family and that will never change
But he's the person who opened the gates to hell for me
And now I'm the only person who can help him
He's the worst of the "dirty" people (I divide people into clean and dirty. Not physically, morally I guess)
I don't usually bother with the dirty people, and I stay away from them
I'd certainly never help one
But this time it's my brother, and he's family
I don't know what to do

This basically.

He might be in your "dirty" people category but he still is your brother. Sure he might have done some very bad things to you in the past but it seems he needs you more then ever as you're the only person he can count on. I don't know how severe his depressions are but if he realizes he can't even rely on you he will fall even deeper...

Personally, it would really bite my conscience if I didn't help a family member who is in desperate need of help, even if the said family member did bad things in the past.

Ultimately it is up to you to decide if you want to help him. Can you look past his bad actions to help him out? Some people would, others won't.

That's what I'm not sure about.
I don't know if I want to help him or not.
If it wasn't for him I wouldn't be suffering so much, so he's "dirty".
But if I didn't help him he'd suffer because I'm the only one who can help, so if I didn't I'd be no cleaner than he is.

If you don't want to be as "dirty" as he is go help him out!

Yeah, I would say do help him, but also that there should be some kind of honesty and reconciliation. He should understand and acknowledge what he did, apologize, never do anything like it with you or anyone else again, and be sorry for it. Nothing will be right without that.

If he needs you and you can help him, then it's only fair that you need him to fess up and apologize, and he can help you with that.

If you both can do that, maybe things will feel a little less dirty?

Thanks all.
I've made my mind up to help my brother.
But it still hurts to talk about the past, so I'll just leave that and focus on what's happening to him now.