An irrational ex-friend

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I put my friends into levels.
In descending order: family-like friends, best friends, close friends and acquaintances.
I like to keep just 1 person in the first 3 levels.
Last night my family-like friend left me.
I moved my best friend up to my family-like friend level, my close friend to my best friend level and now the close friend level is empty.
I am actually quite enraged and upset.
If you were put in my family-like friend level it means I believe I have made the right decision to trust you and there is little if any that's bad about you.
But I made the wrong decision.
I have made a childish, immature, self-righteous and irrational friend.

I have been back at school for one week.
I have only spoken to her twice, and both were my attempts.
She hasn't even been into my room or spoken to me in person.
So I asked her what was going on with us.
She started telling me she was "busy" with her work, and asked why did I not go and see her instead.
I got angry, because she was lying, as my ex boyfriend has seen her around and about a lot with her boyfriend and other friends.
She was also the person who told me not to see her because she has to share a room.
She also acts coldly when I speak to her in her own room.
I pointed out that she was lying and she was the one who demanded that I don't go into her room.
She then admitted she was indeed getting rid of me.
Because I am leaving school in 2 months, she has to get rid of me completely to make room for her other friends.
I then explained to her she wasn't spending LESS time with me, she was spending NO time with me.
She then resorted to guilt tripping me.
I knew at this point that she knew I had her figured out so she had to find some way to emotionally blackmail me.
I was very blunt and told her I'm not having any of that.
She did not stop, and even turned around pointed her finger at me and told me I was being insensitive and I didn't realise she wasn't okay.
That was complete bullcrap.
How was I supposed to know if she okay if she never tells me anything, and deliberately distances herself from me?
I told her that she was not the victim her and demonising me does not make her right.
Then she told me she was done with me.

It was like arguing with a 5 year old.
None of her arguments were justified, neither were her childishness, selfishness and irrationality.
I have made a very wrong decision in letting her becoming my family-like friend, and that backfired at me.
Such irrational people irritate me and quite frankly make me sick.
I often wondered why rationality and logic are so highly valued, and now I have my answer.
It's rare, and so is common sense.