How far in life do you guys think I can get?

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So. I'm very worried about how my life will be in the future here's some backstory on me:
I'm currently 16.
I didn't even finish the 8th grade I had to repeat the 6th grade 2 times after finally being able to move to 7th grade then after finishing the 7th grade, I was unfairly kicked out of school because I couldn't be 16 in the 8th grade.

As some of you may know I have Aspergers symdrone and bipolar. -sigh-
(And I think the symptoms of both have gotten worse lately... I've been stimming like heck!! ! and going off into my own little world and when I do certain activity's while off in my own world I forget to why or how I'm even doing those certain things, Like I'm sleep walking or something it became sorta uncontrollable now.
Also, I get depressed EVERY MORNING when I wake up and thru-out my mornings and sometimes nights, I wish it would stop its really killing me... I sometimes wonder why even wake up for the day since i have noting worth doing with my life, I wish I could just sleep and dream for eternally a least in my dreams I'm happy).

I have somewhat unsupportive parents. (its partly their fault for why I'm even in this position in the first place :'(. although only my dad been acting supportive now but i think its just because he wants to be on my good side so he can borrow money from me he already owes me 324$. but all the other times i ask him for things he wont do them. -_-).

I'm just now recovering from a severe video game and this is embarrassing but also porn addiction too which went on for years... (It's part of the reason to why i had to repeat the 6th grade twice :'( I played video games 8-15 hours a day in 2011-2012 and recently now a few weeks ago... and I use to be miserable while playing video games and looking at porn too i couldn't stop myself from playing games or looking at porn :/).

So far I don't have much friends at all! I only have 1 real life actual friend that I be with in person in which i made a few months ago over the internet.
All the rest are online friends but I wouldn't even call them online friends since their not always their for me and sometimes ignore me when i message them...

Anyway, now I'm trying to get my G.E.D soon but I hear people say you can't be a successful person and get a good job and get into a good collage and such with a G.E.D and need a high school diploma so... the hope for me to be a chef, a technician, a landscaper, to open my own food charity and maybe build houses for people is thrown out the window because i don't have an proper education...

And recently I tried even looking for a part time job at a restaurant because since i like food and I'm now 16 and old enough to work and I have 24/7 free time and i thought i need something fulfilling to take my mind off my problems but no one would hire me because I'm not qualified enough. so this made my hopes fail even more and my depression gotten worse.



By the way, If your wondering, I have attempted suicide a few times in the past but now i don't have that problem anymore because now
The only reason to why I don't want to committed suicide now is because I have god with me in my life now and i know he can help me thru my troubles. (So I guess things got slightly better for me now eh?)

Anyway now what should i do now with my life? how far in life can i get with all the problems I have/had? It just feels like i hit a dead end right now and i need answers.

First off, you can still go to college with a GED. In fact, by getting your GED now and starting community college, you actually will be ahead of the curve compared to your peers. So start thinking about what kind of life you'd like to live and what kind of work you'd enjoy doing, because your options are still open.

Depression seems to be your greatest obstacle now. You need someone to talk to, someone who can listen non-judgmentally and help you find a way out. If your parents won't help, call social services and ask them.

A lot of your concerns and experiences are similar to my own when I was 16. Although i must say not the porn thing. That seems to be pretty common for guys and I'm female. So when I was growing up I struggled with being undiagnosed and adults just demanded that I act right. One teacher told me I would be lucky to even get through high school and should just forget about college. Oh how wrong she was..... so I'm guessing you're in the usa? If so, I can tell you colleges are going to look at your academic history to determine whether or not you are likely to make it through college. Some people do poorly in high school and then improve considerably in college. But from what you said, you're gonna be looking at community colleges and stuff to start. But it is possible to start at a community college, work hard, and transfer to a better school and then go on to graduate school. I know because I did it. The question is what kind of work do you want to do?? Once you identify what you want to do, the next step is to look at what education or training is needed to get there. was there anything about school that you liked? Were there things you wished you were learning instead of the stuff they were teaching?

My oldest son dropped out at 16 and got his GED and he's got a good job now doing construction. My youngest son (the one I suspect may have AS but I know he has ADHD) kept failing and was in the 9th grade again this year when he dropped out. He was 17 then and would have turned 18 this past March in the 9th grade. He dropped out in the fall and then found a job at this little convenience store up the road. The guy who owns it is from the Middle East, him and his brother. They hired my son and his friend to just stock drinks and stuff, move heavy things, cook the BBQ outside, and stay there until closing to throw out drunks and folks that are high. He gets decent money for that and he is now taking GED classes at the Jr College.

He absolutely hated school. He hated it with a passion. He couldn't get along with the teachers, he would get in fights with the other boys, he got suspended left and right for smarting off and fighting. This went on for years, with him going to summer school every year but still not passing. This was his third time in the 9th grade and he had failed before too but gone to summer school. He blamed the school and the other kids for everything wrong and was so angry and unhappy there that I felt so sorry for him. It was a chore to get him up and to school in the mornings because he hated it so much. Now, he loves these classes. He says that he has no problem sitting in class and listening to the teachers and being polite because unlike high school, they treat him with respect like he does them. He makes it a point to go every day that he's supposed to go. His friend he works with quit school and is going with him and wanted to miss class today, which is fine, they won't get in trouble, but my son said no he wanted to keep going and get this done so he could take his test and then start taking college classes.

So, it looked pretty hopeless for my son up until about a month ago when he started the GED classes. I was afraid that the only thing he would ever do or be qualified for was working in a convenience store. You can't build a career out of stocking and security. I was terrified that he would start these classes and then hate them. I was terrified that he would stop going. So far though, so good. I'm very proud of him and he's turned things right around.

I'm telling you about him not to brag or anything but to show you about another guy around your age and in somewhat the same situation as you. You can see that he's doing it, and if he can do it then you can do it. I do think the job helped him and he just sort of fell into that because that store has the pool table and they hang out there so he got to know them and started offering to help and such and just basically started coming to work. Now, this is a small town and I don't know what your situation is like where you are. I'd imagine that just finding a job like that would be likely to only happen either in a very small town like this one or an inner city neighborhood. I say this because in both of those, certain things are much more lax. But, for the job, I don't know. Maybe somebody at the GED class place can help you find one. I know there are programs for teens who need jobs and for teens who are studying for their GED. Maybe if you check around, possibly with the high school guidance counselor you can get some good suggestions.

It's very possible to do things with a GED. You may have to go to a Jr College for two years first before transferring to a University but that's possible. Right now though I think you need to find one thing and focus on it. The GED classes. See if you can find some at a local college, because the atmosphere would be a lot better than ones taught at local high schools. At least that's why my son said. He tried this one at the school for half a class and then left.

It's way too soon to give up or even think of giving up. Nothing is ruined, you haven't lost any opportunities. You can also talk to the guidance counselor about home schooling to get caught up in school and maybe even go back to high school your last year or two. That's possible, my son had that option but didn't want it. Talk to the guidance counselor, check out your options and then find one and concentrate on it.

Also, don't be embarrassed about the games and porn. That happens. Just don't let it happen again. Maybe only play games on weekends or something. Talk to a therapist about it. Moderation is what you need.

But look at what my son did and know that's exactly what you can do too. It may take some doing, but you can do it.

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Well, everyone has difficulties - honestly with Aspies and schools it's pretty much a hit or miss with the administration that defines whether school is good or bad for them.

Maybe you could look for a job that doesn't involve getting out much - I'm planning to be a book writer, and I've heard that Aspies tend to be better at it than most people ;p

If you ever want help in your writing endeavors, feel free to PM me!

Well I only have limited data, but if I had to guess, I think you can go about 2,346,897 Miles.

A problematic start is pretty common with Aspies, so don't beat yourself up about that. I know plenty of people in their 20's, and NTs who have been having a heck of a time getting jobs. Its a bad time for that because of the poor economy. And really at 16 you are just getting started and its not the time to be throwing in the towel. But I understand what the difficulty is. Its accepting the probably life long handicap autism gives you, and thats a hard pill to swallow. At some point I think you just have to accept that this is the hand you were dealt and its now just a matter of making the best of it. Autism isn't the only kind of handicap, and if you add it all up might be surprised at how many people have to deal with disabilities of various kinds.

If you have a less then severe form of autism I think your chances are actually fair to good of reaching goals and accomplishing things. It depends on many things but one of the most integral is your will to succeed. Another important one is to continue learning about how to function with autism. So when the opportunity arrises you should try and get whatever form of professional assistance you can. Its difficult once you are outside of the school system but not impossible and many things are available to adults. You may have to dig to find out about them.