Wrong Planet and Bad Interactions

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Kinda sucks to me that there aren't more chat moderators or something since I go on this site to try to have less stressful social interactions than real life ones, but sometimes the ones I have on here can be even more awful and unpleasant than the ones I have on a daily basis in the non-virtual world. Sucks that nowhere is really a safe-haven for connecting with people and intelligent conversation.

I come on to an aspie site so as to not have to deal with all of the BS social norms and conventions that stress me out in life only to be berated by people for not conversing appropriately. It's like wtf! I thought this was a safe zone where I DIDN'T have to small talk.

If only I could FINALLY have some luck in meeting like-minded individuals who wouldn't jump down my throat for no reason. That'd be awesome.

If anyone has any tips or tricks with dealing with awful people or even detecting them so as to just be able to avoid them in future, that'd be much appreciated. I mean you think that someone who has something that's referencing ---------- in their username would indicate some higher level of thinking, but I guess that was too much to hope for (that it would be so obvious and easy).

Oh well I guess I'll continue being a lonely, friendless aspie. /cries

/endrant

Well... It's not like if you put all people with autism in one place, there will be peace and happiness.

Out of 100 random people, there is maybe one that I like. Adding the condition that these people have autism doesn't increase the number significantly.

Are you talking about the IRC channel? I think I've been there once, but it was too confusing for me. On a message board, you at least have the chance to check a few posts by the respective user.

Yeah, I've thought about that. It's part of my mind-blindness or w/e I guess that I have a hard time conceiving of the possibility that people who have it rough or have been cruel to, etc. can still be cruel to others, though I know that from a psychological standpoint, that is a very common reason people themselves are cruel to others. Still hard for me to understand, though. You'd think that since they know how it feels, they'd be less inclined to make others feel that way. /shrug

I've never been a fan of forums, though I know that in general, the people who use forums tend to be more intelligent or mature or whatever you want to call it than those who use chat. I guess for me, if I'm coming online for conversation, I'd prefer it to be faster so that I feel like I'm wasting less time or something.

I probably should learn to be better at forum'ing if I want to meet interesting people, though. It's just tiring having to put so much effort in trying to have a simple, pleasant, meaningful conversation. I suppose that's what I get for being *flails hands around* different.

Instead of kvetching about it, I could try harder to learn how to socialize normally, but that just seems so daunting and overwhelming to me. Having to learn to read and give off the correct body language, tone of voice, facial expressions, what's appropriate to say and when and how, etc. It's just all so much.

Welcome Arya. Stick around it is worth it.

There are all sorts here, including lots of grouches.

One thing I have seen here in my short time is that rigid perceptions and strong opinions cause a lot of friction.

It's virtual communication, if someone is out of order then walk away or have a stand up fight, your choice, but really no big deal.

With a little time you will find some you can identify with better.

And no there are many moderators here, it is more of an autonomous community and it's good that way.

I don’t know if I am seeing what you are saying but if I am – some people and people here as a rule are aspies – simple want to argue for argument’s sake, some will argue the details , some want perfect spelling and grammar. I come here to get more understanding of how we function and to give my thoughts to other that they can use in their lives. My opinions and thoughts are just that mine. Most of us exist in some form of autism and our thoughts are not like others. For me I am one that sees in pictures and so to get that out in words just isn’t going to happen fully. I try to make things short and sweet but it comes out not the way I mean. I try to interpret what all are saying knowing all are describing their thoughts or pictures instead of saying that was stupid – just my thoughts or pictures