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I need some I used to have an active social life until I split up with an ex-gf a number of years ago and had to move in with my mother in another town. Over the last several years but particularly the last year people have stopped talking to me. In retrospect I was probably on the fringes of a couple of social groups rather than being a "proper friend" with them.

Then last year I got diagnosed with AS and had a real bad depression around the time. Since then basically nobody talks to me despite the fact that I am not depressed or miserable anymore. I tried making an effort to have them engage with me again but to no avail. Frankly except for one or two people they can f**k off - I don't need fair-weather friends in my life. But I DO need some friends.

All of the usual "join x social club" or "find a new hobby" advice is simply not an option where I currently live. The town I live in is comprised of elderly people and chavs (the UK equivalent of white trash). Unless you fall into one of those groups there is nothing here for you. I've scoured meetup and various other places to try to find *something* which might enable me to meet some people but to no avail. I feel like I desperately need to move but I have no idea where to and I have very limited means.

Being alone constantly is really pissing me off and sometimes really upsetting me. Despite my AS I'm a very sociable person and spending all my time alone is my personal idea of hell and it is driving me crazy. I just want some people to speak to; I've been alone nearly constantly for I don't know how long now and I'm SICK of it.

I you pm me where you live I can look for groups you might be able to attend - you have to start somewhere and support groups can be a good idea

Alternatively you could try and arrange a meetup via WP with other aspies in your area or look for some kind of voluntary work

Moving might be a good idea. Maybe to a place where there are more social opportunities, like bookstores and cafes and stuff. Getting out at least once a day and going to some sort of social environment is good, even if you're on your own.