Disgusted with someone for no reason

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Today has been a bad day for me in general... was late for school (one more time and I get a letter sent home), everything fell out of my bag, found it hard to concentrate in class... and when I was up talking something over with the support teacher at school, I found out by taking a little peek at some papers that one of my classmates has this hormonal thing that affects her ability to have kids. My natural instinct was to be grossed out, because I find girls' bodies disgusting in general (despite me being a girl myself) and now I have this urge to pick on her, call her a freak of nature, spread rumours etc. since it's just so disgusting. I've been bullied before so I know how terrible it feels, but find this thing she has so disgusting that I want to tell her how gross it is. I know she can't help it, I'm just grossed out, and want to take out my feelings of disgust somehow...

Why in the world would you want to pick on some one for having a medical problem ? Its essentially the same as picking on an amputee because they are missing a limb and you thought that is gross. Being angry at other things or life in general doesn't justify it. You will, just join the cycle of bullying.

You just happened to see personal medical details about a classmate on a teacher's desk?

What was the medical condition?

Let me get this straight. You feel the urge to bully her because you find it disgusting that she's unable to have kids?

Hmm...peeking at sensitive medical information is just dandy, and now you want to victimize that person twice with the information you found? It sounds like you're feeling miserable, but instead of focusing on yourself you just want to spread the misery. Bad call.

Unless she is directly responsible for bullying you in the past, sorry, I can't understand the urge to make her feel just as bad or worse than you feel. Don't do it, and don't look at other people's papers, it's none of your business.

While we can't always help our likes and dislikes, I would strongly encourage you to be tolerant. Since the real definition of tolerance has been lost in our Politically Correct utopia, I will define it: Tolerance is accepting those things we don't like insofar as we take no action to stop or harm the person or activity we don't like. So, I would strongly encourage you to leave this other girl alone if you can't accept her for who she is.

As aspies, we can't make others like or love us, but it is reasonable to expect others to tolerate us--which means accepting our existence whether they like us or not. As such, we owe the same to others. We can't expect tolerance we aren't willing to extend to others.

To the OP, I did want to say I do appreciate your honesty & the Haven is the place for expressing your thoughts. Most of us have bad and even terrible thoughts and most of us do nothing with them, they stay within. I think it happens in different ways but sometimes its like an inner venting outlet. The thinging stage is the place to make that kind of decision, that the thought is not good and not something to act upon.

I think that’s a sign that you should look for something interesting to do with the time and resources you’d devote to bullying that girl.

Spend your bully feelings time learning about the human body.
You will gain knowledge, not hurt anyone, and stop the chance of being grossed out again.

I fail to see what is so gross. It just sounds sad and unfortunate for her. You should not act on this information in any way as you are not supposed to know it.

The OP doesn't appear to have a lot of tolerance for others:-

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postp5406960 ... t=#5406960

"It depends on whether your personalities and interests are compatible. For example, my best friend's on the spectrum, and we're both shy, Japanese-speaking girls with a love of video games, so we get along very well. My support teacher at school has tried to get me talking with other Aspies, but there's this one boy she's in charge of who I can't stand because I just see him as a massive loser."

I have great difficulty relating to attitudes like this

What's the difference between an aspie loser and an aspie non-loser?

This typifies a lot of what I see on WP - people placing themselves into 'superior' categories to other aspies and it
really puzzles me

This is why I think role models are a good idea. If the OP had a decent role model who she could personally relate to, she wouldn't be thinking and feeling the way she does.

To the OP, maybe you could try to put yourself in her shoes and imagine how she feels about her condition and how she would feel about being bullied about it.

Please don't bully her she might be feeling really bad about it herself and being bullied will only affect her life well into her adult hood.