My family life still sucks

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I'm sure I've been posting on here for years occasionally about things like this, but I guess here it goes again.

My "stepfather" is a f**kup idiot and after actually acting normal for over a year due to seeing a psychiatrist and being prescribed meds, he went off the rails again. He abused his medication, relapsed into drinking, drove through a neighbor's yard, and got into an argument with my mom yesterday where he was a horrible as*hole and said she belonged in a concentration camp(also especially stupid considering he's Arab and my mom is German). He's also gone from being a hard worker to sitting in a chair all day, falling asleep, taking online classes part time, and trying to get disability, even though it's obvious he functions better when working.

Even when things have been normal my mom is a bit hard to deal with, she's got back pain from a condition and has gotten grouchier and naggier. It's more understandable but a bit tough to handle.

I have Asperger's, depression, anxiety, and could have mental issues beyond that but I'm not sure, I have anger issues, mood swings, etc. So the household is even more toxic than it could be.

Meanwhile, living on my own would be hard because of my problems and being poor, and even my mom separating from my "stepfather" would be difficult money wise. I don't seem to have much of a system of emotional support and my psychiatrist isn't helping much. I've had a hard time getting some of my deeper thoughts and needs out in the past as well.

I just feel incredibly frustrated, stuck, angry, and helpless when I think about it.

sorry you have to deal with all this.

Perhaps all those of us living in toxic situations hard to climb out of could somehow unite and start a new life … somewhere …

It would be funny if a bunch of us lived in a compound or something.

"So does mine so does everybody's!"

Frankly, your family life doesn't seem all that bad. That thing about your "stepdad" messing up someone's yard made me laugh, more than anything. It's nice to hear of an alcoholic arab for once. I almost got into a fight with some piece of swine manure that took offense of my public drinking - IN MY OWN COUNTRY, FOLLOWING WHAT'S SOCIALLY ACCEPTABLE OVER HERE.

You should really persuade your mother to get on some serious painkillers. It would take some of the edge off, for both of you...

My mom is on painkillers, but they don't work that great. And what the f**k is funny about driving under the influence? That causes car crashes and kills people. Also, alcoholism and drug misuse aren't really nice to deal with in anyone, and they've affected my family for generations so I'm particularly bothered by it. I don't think it's a bit funny and dealing with a pissed off neighbor coming to our door wasn't "funny" either.

Things settled down for a while but have gotten worse again. My "stepfather" is being really obnoxious and apparently either was drinking or attempted to be drinking yesterday. This doesn't go well with Xanax, either. I don't think I've mentioned he has a history of bizarre behavior and threats when drunk, either.

This is a trap I'm in too. I'm not coping at home because of my weird annoying brother who I can't stand the sight of and wish he would go away, but the thought of moving out and living on my own fills me with fear and panic too. I haven't really got any friends to share somewhere with, and I would like to move in with a partner but I haven't got one at the moment, and even that takes time, you can't just meet someone somehow then expect to move in with them the very next day. If my brother wasn't there, I will be a lot happier and I will cope a lot better, with it just being me, my mum and my dad. My brother's that type of ''not at all compatible for an Aspie'' person. He does not respect me, and makes stupid irritating noises all the time until I react, and I do react because he knows I'm an agitated, stressy person, so it doesn't go very well. My mum and dad are easier. I don't expect them to change fully to suit me, but they usually can be themselves without annoying me. I just wish my brother would too, then I would be easier to live with.

Sorry, rant over.

Hey, I can sympathize. Annoying type people are tough to deal with. Sucks that people with Asperger's are often worse off since we're more stuck.

"THEY are insensitive, THEY don't understand, I'm a special! special! butterfly that anyone else should make room in their lives for. THEY should consider my special needs and fancies, as if I am constantly rewarding society with all my cancer research and hypersonic jet engine designing and such."
It's always the "THEY" that are to blame for "not understanding" but never the "you" for a lack of trying to improve or adapt. You do know that, as a rule, autistic people are encouraged to do that - right!? Sorry for all the hostility, but this forum does come as overly caressing most of the time.

And you're not the only one that "has it rough", for Christs sake! 18'th century redcoats, Regency women, WW1 soldiers, interwar socialists etc. etc. while being down and out found the writing of social critique novels as a suitable way of drawing attention to their plights, as oppose to pedestrian complaining.