I'm stuck.

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So due to overprotective parents, I only really have online friends, but I feel out with one of my best freind on another site about a month ago now, and he's not how he used to be. I feel he ignores me a lot, even though he claims not to, and he's less tolerant of my behaviour and bothering him that he used to be. I'm rather clingy because I have Aspergers you see.

So anyway, I started feeling disliking towards him, that I wanted to end our frienship, but I can't. He got me interested in something I'm obsessed with now, and wouldn't be if it wasn't for him. I got annoyed and got in trouble on the site and so I spent a week away from it, only to be missed by a load of people.

Now I feel I want to leave the site again because it hurts me to see him the way he is now, but I can't because others will miss me. It seems the best thing I can think of to do is to block him so I don't have to worry about seeing him say htings that aren't to me and not be convinced he's ignoring me, but I've never blocked anyone before and I certainly don't want him to be the first. I've been too nice.

I think I feel the way I do about him because I'm lonely and he's been the one I've talked to most because we live in the same time zone. I recently staerted thinking that I wanted a boyfriend, someone to care for me who isn't my family, because he no longer satisfied me (He's too young for me to want as a boyfriend and we don't know each other in person) but it will be a while summer, about 2 months, before I go to college and can even try getting a boyfriend.

So how can I stay on the other site without feeling upset about him and without blocking him?

I don't know the full details of it, so I'll just say stuff as best I can, but some men cannot be available to someone every time they're needed. It doesn't necessarily mean he hates you, he probably can't show empathy to what you go through or doesn't want to talk to someone all the time. Unless you've explicitally had a huge arguement or fight with him that suggests he hates you, he could just want more space, and there's nothing wrong with that, and it doesn't suggest that you annoy him. But honestly, I can't fulfill the needs of the clingy myself. I work 14 hours a day and I don't like alot of attention, and seeing he's young he probably had to figure that out for himself the hard way.

Blocking won't do you any justice. You'll still be there, and so will he, and eventually it will get awkward. The best thing is to try to make peace or try to find a way to be friends and give each other the space needed.