Sexual frusteration

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I'm 31 years old, and I have been single for over 5 years now. Online dating hasn't worked for me; every woman I've met through online dating lost interest in me after our first meeting. I can rarely meet women who are not already married or in relationships in my personal life, and on the few occasions I have they were either complete duds or completely uninterested in me. Women I'm friends with insist we can date because we're friends, particularly one I've known for over 8 years. I have not been with a woman at all in over 3 years now. This is making me extremely frustrated. It is affecting my relationships with friends and co-workers, causing problems for me at working, insomnia, depression, and even frequent thoughts of suicide.
Is there noone out there who can help me? I mean real help, not just the spouting of cliches like "it will happen when you least expect it" or bullsh!t about how its not so bad to be single. I really am losing my mind here.

ask someone who knows you well to give you tips on improving your dating success (not my idea - ann landers)

Don't we all need.. something. Whatever that may be. You're forgetting something here, is that we all have obsessive behaviours, even N.Ts. Although I prefer to call them norm peeps.

Take a deep breath, exhale, and calmly reflect what all went on during those times you met those women in the past. Think about what it was about you they lost interest in, and if you still have that certain thing that made women lose interest, find a way you can make yourself more appealing.
A good way to know what kind of woman would make your match is by listing characteristics of the kind of women you prefer. List in your interests. Im sure there are other ways to get a woman in your life. A big thing for you to do is to get rid of that frustration and find yourself a good time in your life. You know, relax at home, go eat somewhere, visit family or a friend and such. I do hope I was some help for you.

iirc, nevada has brothels and they are legal. Dating never was my forte. I always tried to keep myself fit and active. I found fitness and polite aloofness did more than attempting to "score". Now I just want to be accepted.

oh, if you're not the type to be considered "sexy", it helps also if you limit your physical requirements to "clean, std free, and of the preferable gender" and your emotional requirements to "able to put up with me without driving me crazy".

I've dated women that were considered "sizzling hot" that I couldn't wait to get away from, and I've dated women who were considered "homely" that were the best friend an aspie could want. It might not be what people want to hear, but it helps A LOT to be able to be best friends if you are sexually involved.