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I'm officially on holiday and have no desire to be social with anyone. My son is challenging my boundaries. He currently has an ear-ache and is wanting me to take him to the hospital - gave him ear drops already - doesn't do well with pain. I suspect he's going to have a major meltdown over it today. It's just a matter of time. He is seeking my attention and there's nothing more I can do for him at the moment.

Feeling depressed, actually.
Shutting down and ready to run away..

Have you given him Tylenol for the pain? That will help

<hugs> Dental pain and earache are anathema to me. it takes about 3 hours for me to forget I ever felt anything but pain, I feel for both of you.

I gave him ear drops and he gave it 5 minutes.. He has no coping skills. He's already started throwing things bc I won't take him to emergency. He also told me to call nurse hotline and bc I won't, he s being loud.. I'm at Starbucks.. Buying time before my dentist appointment.

I don't have it in me to deal with this.. I can pump him up with drugs but its the taxi ride to hospital that will calm him down and I refuse. I feel horrible for him because I want to help him through this, the proper way, but he is just too difficult. I just want to cry, knowing he is in pain and I'm helpless..

Sometimes I just want to put the both of us out of our miseries because his future looks so bleak. I honestly don't think he will ever change. He will just get bigger and stronger and his problems will grow to be more serious. I can't sleep sometimes because I worry about his quality of life if he can't take care of a little problem. He is such a great kid but is developing these bullying behaviours towards me.. I can't imagine him as a boyfriend, husband, father.. IF he s ever given an opportunity. I sooo don't want him to live life alone but cant help but worry about his partners..

not a single asperger's child in the history of mankind was ever an ideal, picture perfect loving and caring individual during childhood. we were all angry, violent, and ignorant of empathy, especially towards parents. but not bad people.

you're doing the right thing, don't always give into his meltdowns and demands, otherwise he'll grow to expect it, and don't ever give up on him. the only way he'll grow up to have this suspected low quality of life is if you give up on him.

Thank you for the responses. It's always nice to speak with adults in the spectrum because right now, it doesn't seem like my son understands or is willing to acknowledge his role in anything. He has high functioning Autism (not Aspergers) so academics are hard for him too.

I had an interesting conversation with him today about Autism. I'll explain it further in a new post. He basically thinks people with Autism are "stupid" and "can't make friends". I'm not sure where he got this information from since I haven't told him about his Autism yet. He said "friends" have "cousins with Autism".. but I'm wondering if anyone has inadvertently told him about himself.