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This is just a bit of a rant, mostly. I would be categorized as mild AS. Sometimes there are (probably) simple ideas or connections that I seem to have blind spots on. Sometimes I miss the obvious, and my head is scattered to the winds. Sometimes I try to make sense of people, and why they act the way they do.
Why do people seem to find this so f###ing offensive? I just don't get it. Sometimes I just feel too far behind the bell curve. Even on WP, there are times when I'm just out on my own orbit.
Just feeling a little morose, and wanted to vent. I'm going to tattoo a giant question mark to my forehead and call it a day.

hopefully this isn't insulting, but I understand and relate to every post you make (that I have read).

Some may be offended by my next remark, but I find some users on here to be amazingly "normal" (as in very neurotypical) in both mannerisms and reactions. Perhaps some can train themselves to be so habitually neurotypical that their reactions and eventually their thought processes become "normal" (typical of non-AS). If so, I would like to know their secrets of success.

I sympathize with you. Although I have developed coping skills, I am considered more than mild. The Dr doesn't give me a category of severity, but says that I "have a lot of work" ahead of me. I hope you start feeling more "in the norm" with the users on here.

Perhaps some of the threads you get into tend to have people with flared up tempers and you get to be in the unfortunate end of them? I'll have to check your post history to look for specific examples but my educated guess is that.
I think you're fine though

Is it the missing the obvious or trying to make sense out of people that you think people are finding offensive ?

For me, missing the obvious sometimes leads to people making jokes or throwing a dig.

Trying to make sense out of people can mean a few different things. If its like asking someone to repeat something or trying to get a clarification I sometimes run into people getting miffed like they don't want to be bothered. Worse (in my book) is when I am trying to get to know someone a little better and something I ask strikes them wrong and they can catagorize me as 'weird', etc.

As far as being in your own orbit, I think many of us here are high or irregular orbital types. By that I mean autistics can tend to be independant and not interfacing as much together as NTs. When it is really noticable, I can feel like it is a bunch of people alone together. You may be on a relatively low orbit like most NTs but most of the rest are further out in space.

There's a relativeness there. Is it you, or is the rest running silent running deep.

Bad periods here however I think are the norm. I have them regularly. Nothing seems to be going right. But I also know alot is emotional & if I can ride it out I will feel better. Its hard to ride it out though.

FlanMaster: Your post is very reassuring. That's exactly how I feel sometimes, and it's nice that someone relates.

Shatbat: Thanks. I'm sure that does happen occasionally because it's so difficult to tell in this format. I know I can be hypersensitive too.

TS: More the latter I think, but I might not be aware of when I miss the obvious. People just don't make sense to me sometimes. You're right about relativity and sometimes I forget this. It is hard sometimes, but it's good to be reminded that it's "relatively" normal.

Personally I would just be more careful who you post or respond to or whos actively involved in a certain topic. Some people here have overt agendas, and some are just very, very, very close to trolls. If you generally feel like this, then avoiding those types would be a start.

The only reason I occasionally respond to those types is too see which category they are in or to see just how far they are willing to go and uncover their unspoken beliefs. That way I know for next time when to avoid and ignore. Not a good idea to do such things if you're feeling out of it, misunderstood or sensitive though.

That is really the only time I have seen you get into things, and I would say it is more out of not realising than anything else. It's not usually your fault either. Just something to keep in mind.

Wise advice, I'll definitely keep it in mind. Sometimes I'm like a kid with a stick and can't....resist...poking... I think I get upset with responses if they catch me off my guard more than anything, or if I misread the intent of someone. That's when it feels like my foundation starts feeling shakey or insubstantial--kind of like a compass trying to find true north again.

I also was worried that I wasn't communicating effectively, but that doesn't seem to be the case.