Stuck with these people...

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In real life, I've found it hard to find friends who aren't also on the spectrum, and I don't want to be forever stuck in the "weird crowd", and feel like I'm locked up in a cage or something. They all just seem to be drawn to me, and when I asked my therapist the other day, all I got was a long talk about self-acceptance, but this isn't about me... it's about other people. Anyone feel the same? I'm one of those types who wants to be social, so "just sit alone" isn't an answer... I also want to quit being interested in video games, since it just makes my problems more obvious.

There's one friend in specific who drives me nuts. She hasn't been diagnosed, but I'm pretty sure she's on the spectrum since she's OBSESSED with anime and constantly quotes it in the most inappropriate situations, and does all these weird movements as if she's dancing or doing exercises or something, and also has very few friends. I don't want my reputation dragged down by her... being with her just makes me feel horrible, but I haven't said anything because my parents remind me of what I did to my best friend this time last year. But this girl's a thousand times worse... my best friend might be slightly awkward, but she's actually getting on in life, doing her university degree and getting into the dating scene, whereas this girl is too caught up in her anime obsession to get on socially, and I worry it'll stop her from getting a job in the future...

My mind's just a mess now... I really need advice. Should I give up on this friend completely or what?

Just an observation....isn't it a bit counterintuitive to post this on WP? It's your decision who to be friends with. If you don't want to hang out with her, then don't.

Don't act too hastily in dropping someone who could be a real friend. You're only 17. People grow and mature as they get older. Your anime obsessed friend may grow more mature over time. When I was younger I had an annoying friend, who had a good heart. Over time she has toned down her quirky irritating traits and has really grown up. She's one of my best friends now. Unfortanately we live 100 miles apart now and I don't see her often.

In truth, when you look back, most teenagers are annoying.

Who do you think she's ruining your reputation with exactly? Are you still in high school or at college? Is there a cool crowd and a weird crowd? When you leave education your social groups will change. Things don't stay static. Look at my other post about heading for 40. People all find their niches in life and go off and do their own things. Maybe you should appreciate what you've got while you have it.

Nothing is stopping you from expanding your horizons and making new friends, but don't just drop the ones you have because you don't think they are cool enough. You may regret it in the long run.