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It's been over a year now since I last dated. I didn't stop dating because i suddenly lost the ability to... I just gave up. I'm realizing after years that I have an unpleasant personality. Very dry, very boring... can't tell jokes... can't really relate that well to people... I don't feel like putting a curse like that on any woman by dating her. I haven't felt this worthless and depressed in quite some time.. even that picture of alex on the front page with his friend makes me depressed... knowing how depressed this guy really is inside.. it's sad sad sad... lately i've been waking up thinking about killing myself just about every single day... this aspie thing is really weighing down on me.. oh and i'm on a full dose of antidepressants that usually help... they just stopped helping' anyone else going thru this?

I just read your post sad sad sad. I have been through the same thing. I was (and never will be) described as fun, funny, exciting, spontaneous, or romantic. I gave up dating because I felt it was unfair to ask a woman to settle for someone as unpleasant as me. I am now married to a wonderful woman.

All I can say is that there are quite a few women out there that are above all looking for someone who will treat them with respect, listen to what they have to say, and are dependable and reliable. They are usually women who have experienced painful and tragic relationships with someone who seemed wonderful at first, but turned out to be real douchebags.

You won't find these women at bars, parties, or social gatherings, as most of them are very apprehensive of men. I met my wife after several years of online conversation on a rabbit breeding message board. If you can find some good message boards on subjects that interest you, it can be a good starting point. You have to be patient, and say what you mean and feel. And it will take some serious patience.

I now have a relationship that is based on trust, friendship, and mutual interests with a woman who had given up on relationships altogether years before we first made contact. I guess what I am saying is that you shouldn't give up hope, because tomorrow (or next month) could always be better than today.