Sister on her way to check into Mental health.

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So She posted something on face book and I was going to run up and check on her but she posts stuff like that sometimes and I forgot and kept playing then my grandmother commented saying she was worried so I said I would check and went up stairs and knocked on her door and asked her what was up.
She was crying and said she wanted to hurt herself, and thought she should go to the hospital. I have Aspergers and my sister is older but I still feel a very strong protective field towards my family. Like a dog I don't care what they are doing in their lives, I just do my thing sitting around the house but she was in danger and my aspie brain got defensive and with to "Ludicrous speed". I asked her if she needed me to take her as I am 20 and she is 22, but she said she wanted to talk to our mom so I hugged her and told her I loved her then wen to get my mom. I knocked and said that my sister needed her, It was odd how my mom shifted right back to how she had been 18 years ago coming to comfort us in the middle of the night. I went and sat on my sisters bed to make sure she didn't do anything dangerous until my mom came in and I let them talk.
About 20 minutes later and alot of pacing from me I went up and my sister said my mom was taking her to the hospital. So I told her I would go despite my fear of germs and hospitals and my sister said I didn't have too but I didn't want my mom their without anyone to support her, so I started packing up my laptop and a book and got dressed. They came to get in the car and my mom told me to stay here, we had a brief conversation and she mentioned she might be up all night which I am better at than she is actually.... But I just did as my mom said and stayed.
My dad is asleep so he can get up for work and i still have about 3 hours till I have to sleep, but I am not sure what to do.

My sister has had a lot of really traumatic things happen and she started drinking a lot and I knew stuff was going on but I didn't know how to handle it then, and I don't know how to handle this now. The gears in my head are turning but nothing is catching. I mean this is not something that I can make a good guess with how I am supposed to act, and I don't think my parents have the time to teach me how to behave like I am 5 again. I mean this will take its toll on them too, and I am not in too good of shape either. I just do not know what to do or how to act? Is trying to be around her alot good? Like go see her and text her alot? Or just give her space? Can I post about this on Facebook to let people know what is going on? or is that an invasion of privacy? Would them trying to text or call her over whelm her or relieve her?

I feel like as an aspie I have learned how to handle alot of things, but this one is not among them.

please pray for my sister and keep her in your thoughts. Also and advice to me as for what I should do or whatever would be very appreciated.

don't post this on facebook. your sister will decide for herself who she feels safe sharing this with.

about whether to give space or support, you'll have to ask your sister what she wants. it's an individual thing.

it was smart of you not to leave your sister alone while she was in danger of hurting herself.

You did all right, your sister is undoubtedly going through a lot and probably won't immediately be in the mood for visiting, this is nothing on you.

I wouldn't dwell on whether you should have checked on her sooner, the good thing was that your grandma felt enough of a vibe to have you do it then, then you did it right when she asked. Same thing with when your mom recommended you stay home.

We can get funny ideas about family sometimes; perceiving them as a PITA but seeing everyone pull together in a crisis. I know, I was in a similar 'place' as your sister a week ago. It's horrible enough to be feeling those kinds of feelings but putting others through worry seems to add extra guilt, since we don't really want to resort to hurting ourselves never mind someone else.

When you see your sister and your mom give them a big hug, and "hang in there" for now. Wishing the best