Imaginary partners/children

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This is the first thread I've created on this site since my introduction and I'm a bit nervous about it. I'm not sure if it belongs here, but I decided to put it here because of how deeply emotional it is.

When I was young, I never had an imaginary freind. I only started creating imaginary people in my teens. I've gone through multiple imaginary girlfriends overtime. My relationship with them is always a loving one, never purely sexual. They always seem to have aspie tendencies and are always just slightly lower functioning than myself - the kind of women who I tend to be attracted to. They never have names because my mind wants to believe that I will eventually end up with a woman like one of my imaginary girlfriends and doesn't want me to make a woman's name a deciding factor.

More recently my mind has started creating an imaginary daughter named Emily - after Emily Dickinson. She looks like she's five, she's scared of lightning and she always needs to hug me in order to feel less scared.

I know I have already mentioned Emily on this site, but I was just wondering if anyone here has found their mind creating imaginary partners or children. Sometimes I'm just curious as to whether or not I'm alone.

Perhaps this will offer some insight:


Jung: Anima <LINK

You're not alone. I like to have imaginary partners and children too.

The three characters I most often fantasize about are the Johnny Depp versions of Willy Wonka, Ed Wood and James Barry. I noticed that all three of them have similar characteristics to different degrees: they're creative, effeminate, and childlike.

Sometimes I imagine that I have children with them too. With Willy Wonka, I pretend that we have a daughter named Wilma, who has my blue eyes but has her father's (gorgeous) hair. With Ed Wood, we have twins named Glen and Glenda, who have the same dark hair and eyes as their father. With James Barry, we have a daughter named Wendy, who is blonde like me with dark eyes like her father.

Please note that I don't imagine having all these relationships all at once; they are separate fantasies.

Same here. I have many a great conversation with my fictional best friend, the admiral of the Creedonian Navy. I only do it however when no one is watching. It actually helps me vent and write stuff.

Like when I married Frances Fisher's character from Titanic. Too bad the marriage lasted only one year however (1888-1889)

I don't know how to explain mine.
I just have two different things.
I have my imagination of what could happen and such if I acted on something with a person and then I have the idea of what it would be like if someone (non in paticular) was my boyfriend or husband.
I've come up with wedding ideas and such of what it would be like on that day.
But sadly things change when someone I love passes away.
I thought for sure my Grandmother would be there and imagined it, but she passed away in 2005.
Then I imagined one of my Grandfathers being there and then he passed away just recently.
Its depressing to think on and when I try to imagine what it would be like now it can be sometimes good, but then the thought of not being married before my last grandparent and grandfather dies depresses me.
I already have a name picked out for when I have a daughter. (but thats not to weird lol)

This reminds me of that episode of The Brady Bunch, where Jan wants a boyfriend, so she dials the house number and answers to George. The others ask what his last name is, and she says, "George Glass!" I made up a fake boyfriend, working at the factory. I was found out, and everyone knew that I've never had a boyfriend, in the end.

I feel I should add that, in addition to having imaginary boyfriends/children, I have a whole host of platonic imaginary relationships as well. Especially worthy of mention are my imaginary sisters, Alice Kingsleigh from Alice in Wonderland and Elizabeth Swann from Pirates of the Caribbean.

I did exactly that for decades. Always about girls who would need me in some way. After all, real ones never seemed to need me nor did I have anything to offer them. So i conjured up some that would.

My girls never had names, or nondescript generic ones, or names I would keep forgetting. The weird thing is, the very last one I imagined spoke English and I daydreamed about her only a few weeks before i actually met my imaginary girlfriend in real life.

She is exactly what I always daydreamed about, the similarity is frightening. Its almost like some strange variant on the weird science movie theme.

Now I am left with the big question. Did I pick this girl because of my imaginary girls or did I imagine them as a foreshadowing of reality?

I want to believe, of course. lol.

I guess a lot of guys want to be the knight in shining armour who rescues the princess eh? In some of my fantasies I rescue her from a dragon who seems to represent an abusive partner - one who is neurotypical, but has sociopath tendencies.

YES!! !! And here I thought I was the only one...I don't have much of a desire to have children so I haven't really come up with "imaginary children", but an imaginary partner?! Certainly!! Her name changes from time to time, most frequently it's Zoe, the name being a combination of the fact I like what the name means ("life", in Greek), a girl I briefly had a crush on in 2nd grade, and the one and only Zooey Deschanel Sometimes she is a fellow Aspie like me, and other times she is an non-diagnosable, fun-loving, sympathetic, funny, poetic, music-loving, arty person (insert satisfied "sigh" here... ) I guess it's 'cuz I frequently tend to have "foresight" of (and, a couple times, have experienced) high-strung intensity in attempting to create an Aspie-to-Aspie "relationship" (which I've never had not IRL, anyway) that I more often picture "Zoe" as a highly sympathetic (in a good way, and not out of pity) non-Aspie female.

Another reason for this is 'cuz although my humor is pretty quirky and "Aspie-centric", my interests are not. I have plenty of male Aspie friends to satisfy the former side, but idk I guess it'd just be nice, IMO, to have a relationship with a girl who more satisfied my arty, eclectic side ("hipster" might be a snide way of putting it - though I don't smoke or drink, I try hard not to be a "snob", and I also occasionally venture outside of indie music - though that does tend to be a fave of mine as far as music goes). "Zoe" is not by any means constantly depressed and/or angst-ridden, she's funny, and best of all, she likes me for me Basically, she's me in female form, lol. I know that's too much to ask for in a "real" relationship, but I haven't found anything that's even CLOSE to this, so that's basically the reason I have an imaginary gf right now You mind telling me more about yours? "She" sounds interesting!!

I used to imagine myself in a polyamorous relationship with two, scantily-clad, light haired, blue eyed, yet dark brown skinned girls named Miranda and Viranda. In short, having imaginary intimate partners can be fun especially if there's a very slim chance you'll get one in real-life, anyway.

There's a strange metaphysical argument that, whatever you think about, you create in some way...

I believe this to be true.

I have
a pretend cat.
her name,
is snuggle.
she is my best,
friend.
she is brown and white.
her fur is
long.
she purrs,
and drinks milk.
she likes to
play with string,
and
sit in my lap.
my teddy bear
is my son.
he is eighteen.
he loves me.
I love you,
charles and snuggle.

Sort of yes... My own mind started to create itself Gwydion and Rhoslyn. They're not used specifically purely for relationships, but in general as useful friends. Useful in a multitude of areas.

They created themselves from my own interests for example in Furry - perhaps its a fetish thing I don't know..., indeed they both share Aspie traits, Gwydion certainty has an element of ADHD as well. They like to use me for sex yes... Not really a bisexual poly boyfriend and girlfriend thing really...

Thank goodness this was posted. My stuffed animals are the vessels for any personality I create in my head. They seem more real to me than the people in the outside world considering I take the traits I like from others and make my stuffed animals have them. Almost Every night I imagine talking to them and spending time with them especially if I feel lonely (which is often.) I wonder if it is because I am not very happy with my social life? Either way, besides academics, I sure do feel more to them than anything else in life.