this guy really creeps me out

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A few weeks ago I went to visit a friend of mine that works at McDonalds and she introduced me to a co-worker, I was polite but didn't say much cause I was getting a really weird vibe from the guy that made me seriously uncomfortable.
The next time I went to McDonalds I didn't even speak to the guy and he tried to ask me out to dinner (which I turned down), but he's been asking nonstop (through my friends). I eventually agreed to message the guy on facebook, so I just said "hi", he messaged me 6 times over 2 days (I didn't log on for a few days). Not only that but he's been calling me "amazing" and "wonderful"; I haven't ever said more than a couple of words to the guy! I know I shouldn't judge someone I don't really know, but I'm getting pretty creeped out by this situation.

That would creep me out & I am not even a girl. Sounds desperate and devoid of awareness. I'd avoid and make no more contacts or concessions.

well, I just un friended him on facebook. Now I have to think of a way to get out of a lunch meeting with him that my friend forced me into. Not to mention a way to get rid of his unwanted attention for good.

Just do what you have to. Your life is your own and you do not have to take someone being pushed upon you and who is pushing themselves upon you.

thanks, that's a good way to put it. I'm going to make the guy and my friend get the message that I'm not interested (and never will be). Not exactly sure how to do that yet, but I'll think of something.

E-mail him and tell him you're really not interested in pursuing a relationship of any kind with him. You should be direct, clear, and honest.

Also, be sure to ask him to please not contact you. After you hit "Send," add his e-mail address to your spam blacklist (done through your e-mail provider). This way you won't have to see his mail if he doesn't respect the request.

You don't have to waste any time fretting over this. Simple, quick, direct. Go do it now, in fact.

I would but I don't know his email address. The only way he could contact me directly was via facebook, cause I didn't feel comfortable giving him my number.

Yupe that's creepy alright.. :/

Just be ready for the torrent of abuse that will be hurled at you - these guys don't take rejection well.

I think a guy like this probably doesn't even know what he's doing. He might have family pressuring him to be more normal and date people.

So, unfortunate people like you wind up in the crosshairs. I imagine he wants to be dating to be filling a percieved social role and he's latched onto you to do it.

Via the common friend(s), perhaps? Or perhaps just a note given to your friend to deliver to him. "I'm sorry I can't right... ever."

Tell him straight up, to his face, that you are sorry but you are not at all interested. Don't beat around the bush. If there is a shred of doubt in his mind that you are not interested (if he doubts at all that you are not interested) then he will use it to convince himself that he should go after you, to the point that he may not take anything that his or your friends say to him as affirmation that you are not interested.

Creepy indeed! Email is a great idea! or send him a 'facebook-message' if that's easier. Oh, and i would also say to your friend that you're not interesting in this guy. Maybe she can help you to make him understand! My experience with these kind of situations is: be honest and very clear, but do it once (maybe twice), and further ignore any other approach. This way, the contact will bleed out, because communication stops when one decides to no longer react, right? Good luck!

OP? This guy sounds dangerous. Tell him no and then avoid him as much as you can. If it continues, complain to McDonald's about an employee harassing the customers. They will not be happy with him.

The situation with the guy is pretty clear. Make it clear you are not interested and ignor.

Your 'friend's' behavior is not helping either. Make sure they know you are not interested and they need to stop trying to set something up. Is the friend just playing matchmaker or is the guy bugging/pushing your friend into it? Are they trying to get the guy off their back by slinging the monkey onto your back?

Danger here is that OP acts too nice. You have to make it clear that you are not comfortable with this guy, especially to your friend. Maybe her intentions are good, or misguided. Obviously you don't want to cause a fuss but sometimes these situations happen, and it would be better to lose face than get stuck in an even worse situation.

If the only option is to complain to McDonalds, do so. Your relationship to this guy (sorry if you cringed at that) is customer-employee, so he is crossing a line.

The main thing is, it doesn't matter if the guy is actually a creep or not - you don't want to find out, and don't have to.