Flooding of dysphoria

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When ever I read about post-op trans women, I get a flooding of strong, dysphoric emotion that interferes with my ability to think clearly. I'm stuck being pre-op cuz I can't afford it and live in a crappy area and work for a crappy company. I'm working on changing the situation to get covered, but it still seems so hopeless and futile.
In the meantime, I have to contend with these strong emotions. Maybe I can ask my doctor for a high-dose antipsychotic to turn me into an uncaring zombie.

One of my younger daughters friends is thinking about transitioning without surgery or hormones FtM and has sent me some sites, since his Mother isn't supportive at all and there is no communication about it between them. I've known him for years and so I said I'd happily provide mom type emotional support. Asking me to look at some of the sites was one of the things he's asked me to do. I have several of them bookmarked if you haven't already seen them (although you probably have) and I'd be happy to send them to you if you haven't seen them. I don't know if it would be of any help to you or not, but they talk about nonprescription and nonsurgical alternatives to use either instead of surgery or drugs or while waiting on them.

I'm sorry I don't have more to offer at the moment, but I'll gladly offer that. The friend is actually over here for the weekend right now, but I doubt he would know of any help, he's only 17 and just now coming out to people about being trans. All his friends are fine with it, it's just his mother and some other family members that are causing the problem.

Sure. I'll look at them. Thanks.

OK, they are in my favorite places and I'll look through there today and this evening for you. If I haven't posted or PM'd them to you by in the morning, please send me a PM reminding me. I'm having my own middle age hormone problems right now that are making me have trouble remembering things. I also have not only those kids over, but the one other girls boyfriend is here, who happens to be the transguy's cousin, and my son will be back soon and probably his friend will be over, and my older daughter and her fiancé have a friend over, so I get busy from time to time lol. Luckily, the youngest people here are 17, so it's not like having that many little kids, but there is a lot to do when company is over. But thank God it's a football Saturday so when DH gets home from work he will go to my mothers and they will watch it together. That will keep the noise level down to a dull roar I think.

If you like, I could tell K, the trans friend, about your situation and ask if he knows of any other sites. He's wanting to meet others in the community but is very, very shy and quiet and has trouble talking to people. He's even very quiet and shy online, even with people he knows and hangs out with. Maybe if he looks for some sites for you he would feel like he's getting a chance to connect and help out someone else in the community, even if you two never even type a hello to each other. I'll only do that with your permission, of course.

Sure. I'll talk to K. Thanks.