One of the kids friends got killed tonight

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22 Nov 2013, 11:45 pm

I didn't know the boy, but we all just found out about it via FB. It's been confirmed though, with his family. He was 16 or 17 and in my younger daughters grade. She's got two girls spending the weekend and they knew him too. We looked at his FB page and he posted three hours ago, the same kind of stuff my kids post. Something along the lines of "I'm about to go out and get my night started" and he was in a wreck and killed. That's horrible!

I feel so terrible for his family, but more than that I worry more about my kids. Of course in the back of my head I know that stuff like this can happen to anybody, anytime. However, seeing a regular kid they go to school with post something just like my kids to and then this happens, it just scares me. I know it's selfish to feel this way, but I'm just terrified for my kids now. I know that everything is the same as it was before this happened, but it just reminds me of all the horrible things that could happen to anybody at anytime, even a harmless kid.

They said he was really nice and friendly, he was on the football team, he hung out with a crowd that overlapped into my kids crowd. He wasn't out drinking or anything at the time, he had just left home. This is very frightening, because it reminds me that it could, God forbid, happen to mine too.



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23 Nov 2013, 12:36 am

My sympathies go out to the family of the deceased. :( That sucks.


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23 Nov 2013, 1:14 am

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23 Nov 2013, 1:59 am

Thank ya'll. It's scary being a parent, that's for sure.



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23 Nov 2013, 4:45 am

I'm so sorry :( something like this just happened near where I live, a couple football players got killed in a wreck and killed someone else (hit them head on). They went to a school just over the PA border from me and even though I didn't know either of them personally, seeing their pictures in the paper tore me apart, as did your post. A girl a year younger than me last year and the year before that a boy who was a year older than me from my alma mater died in accidents too and whenever I hear news of this happening it boggles my mind. These kids are younger than me. They shouldn't die. :'(

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23 Nov 2013, 5:19 am

Thanks, I will Emo. It is scary. Honestly, it always "feels like" you "should" have some sort of warning you would pick up before a tragedy like that, mainly to me because when you watch a movie you can usually tell when something bad is about to happen, I guess I'm conditioned to it. Many times in books you can tell something bad is coming too, usually because the plot needs another twist, but real life isn't scripted, there is no plot, and nobody is trying to keep viewers. So it's scary as hell the way it can come out of nowhere like that.

I'm sure his parents worried about him driving. Especially at night when it's raining some, like tonight. But they probably did as we all do and put that at the back of our minds when they are only going a short distance to a friends house that they have been to many times before. I'm sure his parents didn't give it a second thought really when he left, and I wonder if his mother may have had just a vague "bad feeling" about tonight, but I'll never know. I have those sometimes and something bad happens and I have them just as many other times and nothing bad happens. It's just got me thinking more and more about how there isn't a warning, and how it happens when nobody is doing anything dangerous or really more risky than usual.

My older daughter and her fiancé saw where the wreck happened on their way to my oldest son's house tonight. They didn't know who it was or anything, but they passed where it had happened and the ambulances and all were gone. That's really creepy feeling to think about. She said it looked like somebody had gotten t-boned. It scares me to think that if they had been there an hour earlier, or thirty minutes earlier, it might have been one of them.

It's such a hard thing to wrap my mind around, and it's one that I hope I never have to.



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23 Nov 2013, 2:17 pm

Ooh. That sounds eeriely similar to when the girl from my HS died last year. My mom and I came to the roadblock - a rescue truck was parked sideways blocking the view - and my mother, having been an EMT, told me they do that if a wreck was fatal so people don't watch them removing the body. Later when we found out it had been her my mom's face went pale and said "They were getting her out of the car." and we both started bawling.


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