Torn between hubby and son

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I have been married for 11 years its a arranged marriage.
After my son was born there was a gap between my hubby and my relationship
he got way too attached to our son.

I work 6 days a week and on weekends when i ask my hubby to take us out somewhere
he listens to my sons demands of going to gaming zone, childish movies etc
If i make a demand to go to science centre, park or natural places my son throws
a tantrum

Yesterday i asked him to take me to lake side i told we both can go and let our son play with his friends
but my hubby insisted our son come too
son started grumbling about going to lakeside he said we will go to gaming zone

so we had to give in and it was decided that gaming zone, dinner in restaurant and finally lakeside
so after gaming zone and dinner my son got a headache and the lakeside was cancelled
if that was not all while driving back home i put on the radio in the car and was listening to soft music
but my hubby changed the channel and on my sons demand loud disco music was put on.

i just couldnt handle this total ignoring of me and if thats not all there is no physical relationship also
if i take interest then my hubby does it like a chore

i was feeling very depressed this morning and almost suicidal.
there is a guy my psychiatrist who is showing keen interest in me writing to me on social networking
and asking me out for dates etc
should i start a affair with him
he is keen on a physical affair

i feel lonely and left out in this marriage
as if im just a servant in the is house
who cooks, cleans and does grocery shopping

today father and son are going out for a movie
and i would just be alone.

psychiatrists who have sex with their patients are unethical and can lose their licenses. if you are that unhappy, you should divorce. then you can date whomever you like.

having children requires sacrifices. often, you have to put the child first. that said, once in a while, you should get to do what you want to do.

psychiatrist can prove that the patient is crazy and patient is the one who forced him to have sex....he can create such a scenario where patient goes crazy for him and then nobody can cancel his license
i cant divorce....not too bold to divorce, not bold enough to survive in this world alone, not earning enough to sustain just some scraps to go through day to day exsistence
i always put my childs demand first and make sacrifices but its getting too much now...

You have a right to be happy. An extra marital affair, however, may not be the best way to go about it considering the social implications. I am sorry you are in a tough spot.

more then social implication im scared of the lovers tiff the ups and downs in the relationship
which i cant handle since i fly off the handle

I hope you're aware that your doctor is not only behaving very inappropriately but also that is very likely he is simply preying on your emotional situation to get you in bed with him.

I sincerely doubt he's going to take care of you (even if he says so) if you divorce your hubby.

The only thing I can recommend is to change psychiatrist. Choose a female psych if you can, she will be able to understand,relate and help you a lot better.

[quote="Dantac"]I hope you're aware that your doctor is not only behaving very inappropriately but also that is very likely he is simply preying on your emotional situation to get you in bed with him.

I sincerely doubt he's going to take care of you (even if he says so) if you divorce your hubby.

The only thing I can recommend is to change psychiatrist. Choose a female psych if you can, she will be able to understand,relate and help you a lot better.[/quote
ya i have got a inkling of that he just talks about sex, sends sex videos or images and barely ask about my emotional condition and once when i was going through utter low he just ignored me completely
very selfish and lusty

Changing to a female psychiatrist seems a promising option.

She would also be more familiar with your culture and may have practicable advice on what you might do.