Spending christmas alone

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*sigh*.......[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_eqVlxjbUpY[/youtube]

I don't know what the numbers are, but there are millions of us spending Christmas alone. Since a few Chinese restaurants are open then I'll probably go to one and get some takeout.

Seems like the whole world gets together to really make sure you realise what a sad life you have.
Every body saying "Merry Christmas", yeah right, they will be seeing the happy faces of their Children as they open their presents, eating good food, belonging to someone.
Ive just eaten the last of my bread but I have a handfull of potatoes so will do a couple of baked potatoes with melted cheese.

This will be about the 38th Christmas Ive spent alone, apart from a couple of years when I worked with a Lesbian who used to invite me over to her home, I do miss her but getting invited to other peoples Christmas's actually makes it worst because you feel like a charity case so If such offers come again, I find some excuse to wriggle out.

Are you all right, AspieOtaku? I'm spending a solitary Christmas as well, but that's by choice.

If you want to talk about the reasons and causes behind why you're spending Christmas alone this year, feel free to express them, if you're comfortable.

I am SOOOOOOOOOOO much happier since I no longer have to spend Christmas in company. Me, myself and I have a tradition now and we don't like being disturbed. It really annoys me when people hear that I am alone on Christmas and presume I will be miserable. Not to be horrible, but there aren't many humans who would make it more enjoyable to spend the time in company rather than by myself.

people are by large boring, boorish, annoying, contentious, disruptive, tiring, tiresome and seldom any fun.

you aren't missing out on anything!

I can relate to having a Christmas that is not what you would like to be having. In my case we feel obligated to travel to spend the holiday with relatives. Here it is noisy, if you try to get away from it you are antisocial, if you shut down due to the noise you are being sour tempered. If you refuse to eat substitutes (is sweetened condensed milk a substitute for heavy whipping cream? Not in my book but I am the baddie for refusing to be happy with the substitute.

I love my family, but here it is not allowed to be me. I am miserable and stressed and this is seen as ingratitude.

I love candle light vigil mass, but am rendered too anxious to attend at a strange parish, so I don't even get to honor the only reason for Christmas that matters to me.

I want to stay home, create a celebration I can enjoy, go to Church, and be pain free.

Being here is painful and I must not melt down or complain. It hurts. I hate it. Yet to protect myself means all the rest of he he family will be angry with me and never let me forget my behavior is "selfish".

Decompression from this week will take two or three months.

Being alone when you don't want to be sounds lousy too.

Merry Christmas!

well that's fun, I was planning on posting a thread with the exact same title ! !! This christmas I had dinner with my grandma, then got drunk alone, then sent messages to all my old friends, begging for some attention and of course no one responded. How pathetic is that !
I HATE christmas ! !!

The Lab Pet is spending Christmas alone, and in a nearly vacated flat.......kind-of unusual circumstances. I am at once really grateful as I'm transitioning to a good position, but wistful too as I pack up and leave. I've moved way too many times. A bittersweet transition.

I travelled overseas for 9 days, returning just Sunday night. I have about 9 days to pack up everything I own in boxes. My little flat is looking scattered right now, and I'm an Aspie that needs structure/organisation. Loads to do right now.......and it's Christmas Eve.

The weather is windy and I'm in for the night. Earlier this afternoon I walked to my neighbourhood grocery, asking if I could have some extra boxes for moving. Meanwhile, family crowds were busy buying final holiday items like gravy fixings and ribbons.....I bought tape for my moving boxes. Sigh.

While packing up my first box, I watched a Christmas special on TV. Anyway, Merry Christmas all, even if you're alone. Remember us Wrong Planet members are here - thanks, friends. Sometimes it seems all of you are like family, especially on this Christmas Eve.

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Thanks AspieOtaku.....um, I like G. Michael's Xmas song too:

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E8gmARGvPlI[/youtube]

Personally, I be much happier alone then where I am now. I'm with my father's parents' away from home because there's no power. I had no power for the last few days. Me and somebody were going to make gfcf cookies yesterday, but now I have to stare at everybody eating things i can't even eat, and that really down's anybody's willpower.

Let me tell you, unplanned blackouts are the worst things in the world for an autistic person I was going to build a Sims 3 house for other grandparents who were supposed to come today! Instead, I spent the last two days in crowds and watched a movie I hated last night, when I wanted to watch Frozen.
I hope the power is back on tomorrow, and if it is, I'll be happy to spend Christmas at home. But if it's not, as soon as the power is back on, I'm playing Sims 3 all day long for as long as the blackout lasted. If it's 5 day blackouts, I'm playing Sims 3 for FIVE DAYS STRAIGHT.

I wish I could stay home too could stay home but there's no power. I've spent 3 days with barley anything i could eat. I cried a few times, but Mom and dad got really really angry with me and threatened to take me shopping. They don't let me meltdown at all!
Which is why I'm ranting here!

Seriously- I'm thinking of Queen Elsa in Frozen. Man- this is where I feel the fastest to meltdown.
But to be honest, I experience the feeling of frustration with parents who don't understand austim every single day. It's better during holidays when grandparents are here. (Mom's side- I'm with my Dad's right now- they're demanding I do everything myself when I am totatlly not in the mood- that's why I'm connected, anyway." But due to the blackout, this holiday has already been terrible.

Maybe you could go rant on the forums, if you really wanted too. It might keep you calm.

I am here with my cat, who really seems to understand me. Nowadays that is good enough for me.

The biggest problem with the holiday is all this expectation that they should be enchanting. Whatever it is you are doing in the moment, just try to make the best of it. Otherwise you are just letting the rest of society make you miserable by thinking you have to be enraptured with the FaLaLaLaLa.

I'm spending Christmas alone, and I'm fine with it. I'm actually overjoyed, because I don't have to have a disgusting nettle shedding tree in my house that could ignite at any moment from the heat of gaudy lights. Because I'm Jewish. Happy un-thanks-givanukka everyone!

Get a fake one with lights on next year if you want to observe Crimbo secularly.

What about Hannukah? Bothering with that? I am crinimally ignorant on it.

In fact, putting a loaded Uzi to my brain and firing it would be apposite given my last post.

Criminally ignorant.

@AspieOtaku: If you're going to be alone for Christmas, you can always do a Japanese tradition and go to the nearest KFC to celebrate:

http://blogs.smithsonianmag.com/food/2012/12/why-japan-is-obsessed-with-kentucky-fried-chicken-on-christmas/

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qTx-sdR6Yzk[/youtube]