jealousy

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Why do feelings for person x have to be perceived as lessening my feelings for person y if I feel romantically towards both people?
Why is jealousy acceptable instead of what's shunned?
Why is monogamy so widely accepted?

How do you feel if you are in a relationship with person x and they express increasing feelings for person y?

What might your "boundaries" be?

Me? I'm a serial monogamist cos I can't cope with the emotional confusion that occurs when my (or partner's) boundaries get blurred.

Honestly, as best I can tell, if they still showed me attention and affection and we did things together still, I'd be happy for them.
The only jealousy I've experienced has been for straight up platonic friends, because I saw them giving something to my partner that I don't give. I got over it. I can't be everything for 1 person.
I don't know what my boundaries are, they've never been pushed, haven't been close to pushed. My partners' own boundaries for themselves have always been smaller than mine for them are.