Abused at Work

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Just pretty recent, roughly 10 mins ago while at work my dad (the boss) comes into the office demanding if I had sent a designer a email request yet. I told him I've already done so, and he demands that I show him. The email said the following...
"Do you happen to have the design drawings for the kitchen, powder, laundry, and share bathrooms?"

Apparently he didn't like that or at least how it was typed out, he said that it was confusing to understand. However, when I told him that I didn't see anything wrong with said text he starts to shout telling me "Nobody would understand if you type it like that". Well I apparently snapped, and smacked myself. The next thing I know he has apparently shoved my chair over screaming, and hit me really hard on the back side of my head. He told me "I wish you would hang yourself", "I don't care about the way you want things", and ect.
I finally just gave in and typed it how he would had liked it, which looked like this...
"Do have the selection tiles for the kitchen floor, powder floor, laundry floor, and share bathrooms floors?"

Since than, I've been just sitting here thinking and of course crying.

your Father sounds like a complete as*hole. i feel like giving him a bang on the ear!
No one has the right to abuse you like that it makes no difference if he is related to you or not he is still a work colleague and must abide by the laws regarding workplace bullying.
i am so sorry this happened to you.
(((HUGS)))

Do you also have a Mom at home? If so, I would explain to her what happened and try to get her asistance in dealing with your father. If you have any brothers or sisters they also might be of help. He is both physically and mentally abusive. Generally you try to resolve things at the lowest level, which would be within your family, but if that is not possible you need to escalate it to next level which quit working there, notify social services and/or police. Whatever you do, do not just put up with it.

Mom would believe I was lying as she'll ask my father about it, my siblings have learned to not get into any business that involves my parents. I don't have any other place to work, aside from here at the moment. If I don't work, my parents would throw me out and the cost of rent in this area is much too high for me to afford. I was thinking of just putting up with it until I had enough to move to a less expensive state.

This also isn't the first time it has happened, last time I had a nice hand size piece of granite thrown at me.

Do you think it would be worth it to still try and talk to your mother about it? She may not have believed it in the past, but sometimes people can be convinced if you give them enough accurate information. Was there someone else also present in the workplace that saw it happen? A witness.

In general though it would be worth it to investigate what social services/advice and possibly even medical assistance is available to you as a low income person. If you can learn about what is available you might gain some additional freedom to move away from the situation. Calling social services privately might be a first step and you may be able to learn something also by doing web search in your area on social programs. Remember if you feel threatened by your father you can notify the authorities and there may be a secret location shelter in the area that you can live.

Thats just horrible

Its definitely abuse...workplace abuse, physical and emotional abuse.

I do not see your age listed so if under 18 please speak to a counselor at your school. If over 18 do use the abuse hotline to receive advice and resources.

What he is doing to you is completely unacceptable!

Sweet Pea hugs

Call the police, a doctor, counselor, etc. Whoever you feel can resolve this misery.

You have definitely been mistreated. You should definitely get help for yourself. It may be a good idea to find someone who can mediate between you and your dad once things have calmed down.