73 year old father still has temper tantrums like a toddler

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04 Jan 2014, 1:09 pm

Have to vent. |For almost as long as I can remember my father has had temper tantrums like a toddler, where with little or no provacation he'd start screaming and threaten to leave, or kill himself or self injure himself. And my mother always humored him. I know it has something to do with Post-Traumatic stress syndrome from growing up in War and Post War Japan where he almost starved to death, and I wishI could be more understanding of it. But it made my childhood hell not knowing when my father was going to explode and threaten to kill us all. I always had trouble sleeping as a kid because I'd believe he'd snapand kill everybody.



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06 Jan 2014, 12:49 am

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06 Jan 2014, 5:22 pm

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07 Jan 2014, 9:26 am

I still have temper tantrums too. I lash out every few months or so, and a lot of subtle things push my buttons so my family have to tread on eggshells around me. I don't threaten to kill anybody, though. Nobody's scared of me, they just get upset. I am ashamed of being like it and I'm getting help and seeing what meds I will try.

About your father, I don't know. He's 73, so it's not too likely that he's going to change now. He probably has always had a stress disorder where he's been prone to stress, and he also might just be one of those people who are prone to adult temper tantrums. The war can't just be to blame, otherwise everyone who lived in the war will be like that. So he's probably prone to stress and having PTSD easily.


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10 Jan 2014, 8:47 pm

That used to be me, many years ago................ not anymore though.

My sympathies, OP. :(


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14 Jan 2014, 11:28 pm

Thanks for the responses. It's odd that both my father and uncle both have PTSD and not my aunts' who if anything had it harder during the war and afterwards. As I said, I try to be sympathetic' because I myself suffer from mild PTSD due to my childhood, and many other Aspies do as well. But it's hard.