Do you consider this to be lying?

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If someone were to tell you that they were going to do something, and then they change the plans without telling anybody, do you think that it's lying?
The person knows that if they don't tell anybody that they changed their mind that there is going to be deceiving involved, regardless of if they think that it will affect anybody or not. Whether or not they think about if it will affect anyone else, it still doesn't make any sense to change it anyway when they know that they told someone what they'd plan anyway.

Also, feel free to tell me the difference between "affect" and "effect," because I forgot, but I'm going to look it up later.

No I just see it as rude behavior because they failed to inform everyone. It always pisses me off when someone cancels at the last minute right before it happens. that has actually happened in one of my none autism groups so I spent around waiting and driving around on the island here and then I came home all upset and then I couldn't handle it when my husband had to go to the store for some food for potluck at his family and he went alone. I found out when I got home the gathering was canceled because the person running it had to work that day because his boss made him. I don't know if I could fault him or not if his boss was a jerk for deciding to make him work that day when he said he could have it off so bam short notice cancel. s**t happens, quoting my dad.

Seesh we we are supposed to be the ones with poor planning skills and social skills and yet there will be someone out there without an ASD making plans and then not doing them for no reason and failing to inform people.

If they change the plans after they talk to you, that means that they originally intended to do what they said, right? So it's not lying. unless you ask them about it again later and they don't say they changed plans, or they know that you need to know about their plans and don't come tell you about the change. If they're just doing their own thing and you are not involved in the plans, they don't need to tell you about the change.