So annoying!

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So my moms boyfriend was at it again....screaming at my little brother, slamming crap and such. So I gave him a peice of my mind....told him why he was being unreasonable, asked him if this was mature adult behavior until he finally said no, but I had to keep asking because he kept interrupting me trying to ignore it. Then I told him he should get therapy for his severe anger issues which he also kept trying to ignore. So he was still slamming and yelling so I came downstairs for a moment to collect myself....and went back up and told him that when he acts like that I get concerned I might need to call the cops before the situation escalates. He tried to tell me 'you don't call the cops for that' and I said 'yes people do call the cops when they feel unsafe and don't think they can handle the person on their own'. So yeah he miraculously stopped screaming and yelling and slamming stuff.

I also noticed he does not do that when my brother is around, my brother called the cops on him once because he thought he was going to harm my mom because he was screaming and seemed violent. I really hate to pull the 'I'll call the police' card as I tend not to trust cops and have had not so wonderful experiences with them.

It was just really annoying....and stupid anxiety, I just started shaking from anxiety after I submitted this....but took a valium so that should help though I fell on the floor and crap trying to find it. I was forcing myself to be calm when dealing with him so I suppose the physical side of the anxiety had to come out sometime.

It always does, for all animals.
No offense, I just lump humans with the other animals because we're so similar.

IMO you handled that great! Cool you!

Oh no offense taken...I am well aware humans are just another animal. I remember as a child sometimes I wished I was a cat...I've always gotten along quite well with cats and certainly have the sense I can communicate with them and they communicate with me. I mean I have cats and you get to the point where they come and meow and even if this meow sounds the same to most people I can tell the difference between if they want water, if they want attention, if they want to go outside its just cool being able to communicate without words.

But yeah I think I handled it ok.

Yep...he did stop his violent behavior because of your intervention.

I think you handled that well. Got his attention without losing your temper.

Exactly, I admit I had a very strong urge to tag him in the face....but I held back, because I figured I needed to stay calm, and if it did escalate and I called the cops I wouldn't have wanted to be questioned about why I hit him.

Good god! and now he's listening to The Beatles....he should do what they say and smoke pot, smoke pot, everybody smoke pot...if anyone remembers I am the walrus that is what they say in the background rather unclearly and amazingly it still made it on the radio.

I am the walrus

that particular part starts at about 3:34 minutes into the video towards the end, I tried to embed the video but for whatever reason whenever I really want to post a youtube video the youtube embeder on the site doesn't work. But anytime I don't really care whether I post it or not it works fine

Last edited by Sweetleaf on 02 May 2014, 8:13 pm, edited 2 times in total.

Plus once you introduce contact violence it escalates things and he may respond in kind.

I hope he follows up on your therapy suggestion.

He probably would have tried to respond in kind, but not sure it would have worked....me and my 20 year old brother can go into berserk mode, so if I had hit him not so sure I would have stopped till I was quite certain he was down. There was also the whole aspect of he's screaming at my brother this one is 11, I have two brothers and I am thinking 'how dare you treat my little brother that way, I am his big sister.'

The shaking is a natural physical and uncontrolled response, kind of like what happens when you get really cold. I have seen it many times and experienced it myself.

Your doing a good job handling this. Calm, adult, but not letting him get away with it. As long as people put up with it, he has no reason to change.

And you are absolutely right about it being immature and childish. I'd be willing to wager this is a person who has used tantrums to get their way or establish dominance from childhood on up.

Very well-handled.

If he does it again, no warnings this time--just call the cops immediately.

Might have to keep my promise....as he and my mom are arguing so far just being loud though.