I don't want her anymore.

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I have a 23 year old daughter who is very beautiful. She lives in California and I moved away from CA in 2006. She has been very mean to me since she was about 12-13 years old. She twists anything and everything I say into something negative and turns around and yells at me, cusses at me, and calls me bad names. She thinks she can tell me what to do and gets mad at me when I don't do what she wants.

My daughter is an event organizer (in her area) for a major charity that raises money for cancer research. She makes herself out to be a wonderful person who will do anything for anyone, especially disabled people. But she treats me like s***.

I feel like never talking to her again. I miss my sweet little girl but I don't want this mean, disrespectful adult. I don't call her because I never know if she will yell at me or not but I can't keep pulling my hair out when she decides to call me. She is a big bully.

I don't have anything to do with my parents or son for the same reasons. Now I have to cut her out too.

What would you do in this given situation? Have any of you been in this situation before?

what does her father think of this behavior? Maybe you can dump her on him?

I sent her to live with her father when she was 15, eight years ago. My ex and his second wife have said they don't like her behavior but all signs actually show they promote this behavior because they do the same thing.

My daughter was fine until her dad decided to convince her that she should live with him. In California at the time children were allowed to choose who they would like to live with. For several years I refused to let her, until it became quite evident that she was in physical harms way in the neighborhood where we lived. Moving to a different place was not an option. I also forbid my daughter from having contact with my abusive parents but she did it anyway and they put a few things in her head.

My son on the other hand is a different story and does not act like either me or his dad. He is severely mentally ill, refuses his medication and is very violent.

I took both my children to doctors and counselors. None of them ever took me seriously, but then no one ever has. This is one of those cases where a child falls between the cracks because the so called child experts don't believe the mother.

I would love to go to counseling with her even if it is by phone or online but she will not do it. She is stubborn and does not think there is anything wrong with her. I know she has been through some hard times but you are right, she should not take it out on me.

Well then that is her choice. You cannot make it for her. What I would do is tell her simply that you love her greatly but feel that it would be best if you two took a break for a while since you feel that you both bring the worst out in each other.

Thank you for your reply's.