So, To Sum Things Up...

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A) I'm not dateable.
B) I'm not that good looking.
C) You look/act/sound like a man.
D) You should lose some weight (I'm not fat...)

And because I'm "one of the guys," that makes it okay to say stuff like that, apparently. I mean, FFS people. I may not be girly, but it doesn't mean I am not a girl. I have feelings, and they get hurt. It hurts me more than others, because of my depression and anxiety, but I'm not about to tell them that because I know I'll get teased about it and told to "buck up, it's not that bad." And it's really painful, as that's not the first time they've said it. And probably not the last, unfortunately.

I know I'm not gorgeous. I'm only halfway pretty on a good day, at the right angle. But it'd be nice to have someone say, "Hey, you look pretty today," just because. I'm getting really freaking tired of hearing, "Oh, you'd be pretty if you wore makeup," or "You'd be pretty if you didn't put your hair up all the time," or "Maybe if you didn't wear sweatshirts and jeans all the time you'd get more attention," or "Don't you want to be liked? Try harder." Dear god. It's not like I want to go out and feel even s***tier about myself.

People wonder why I have depression. I mean, it's not just that, but Jesus Christ. It's not like that makes me feel any better.

Unless you have a serious deformity, I don't think your physical apearance should be much of a hurtle. There are a ton of girls out there who put a lot of effort into superficial things like clothes and makeup, but (while I suppose it might help get attantion initially) in the long run they're not all that helpful.

Different guys look for different things. If you want to attract a shallow guy, focus on the shallow things. If not, don't. Personally, the two things that are most important to me in a romantic relationship are emotional stability and intellect. Being in highschool, there's a serious shortage of both of those things. I suppose the same could be said of the rest of the world (though hopefully to a lesser extent).

I've heard that androgynous vioces are often indicative of someone who's less hormonal. For a woman, the decreased estrogen would manifest it's self in the form of increased emotional stability (among other things like decreased cholesterol in bile). For a man, that decreased testosterone might manifest it's self as greater emotional stability (among other things like decreased bone density). The point I'm trying to make with this is that if you really do "sound like a man" that could work in your favor with some guys (myself included).

Now, I haven't had much success dating, so I don't feel qualified to give actual advice, but I'm pretty confident that you're about as dateable as anyone else, you just haven't found the right guy.

I think that's what puts some people off--the obviousness that I don't take much stock in appearances. I mean, I try to look nice, but I don't spend hours on makeup and my hair each day. I still manage to look decent (so I thought ). Getting out of town should help. Maybe I'll find less idiots elsewhere, though I'm really good at finding them. Which is unfortunate, because for some unknown reason, less intelligent people seem to be drawn to me. Not trying to be a b*tch, it's just the way it is :/