Extremely depressed because of loneliness

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Earlier this week I decided to look at my old middle school yearbooks. I looked at certain people I remembered and checked to see how they're doing now, 3 years later. I don't know why but a certain girl just triggered something in me and it made me sad. It made me remember her and how I wanted to be friends but I was too shy to talk and she was popular so I felt she would just see me as another friend. It finally made me realize how good it would've been to have friends back then. I checked on other people and saw how they all still talk to each other and I felt bad since I couldn't be close to them still. I don't think I would feel this sad if I went to the same high school as them. The people at my school just aren't the same. They all came from the middle school down the street so it's like they know everyone but me and the few others that came from my middle school. If I was at the other school, I would have at least some kind of contact with my old schoolmates even if it's just seeing them walk to class. I kinda feel like talking to them online but I don't know if that'd be awkward for not saying anything in the past years. I'm just having a really hard time dealing with this and even though I will probably be over it in a few weeks, I don't want these next days to drag by slowly while I think of this.

The Squid thinks you SHOULD talk to them online. In fact, it's a great conversation starter! "Hey! How have you been? It's been what, three years?" This will get them talking about what they've been up to, and you can catch up! The Squid assumes you're using facebook to check up on these people? Just send them a friend request! You may just be overthinking it. Cheer up, and get in there!

I'm sorry you're feeling lonely. I don't know if this will make you feel any better or not, but I was lonely for a long time, but I put myself out there a bit, and I've finally made some friends. Sometimes I still feel lonely, but that's just me being existential.

Look at it this way: you said you wanted to be friends, but weren't really close. So even if you contact a couple of people online, you have nothing to lose. In fact, talking online is one of the best things to do if you're shy! And even if you don't get replies right away, don't give up! There are plenty of good people out there.

Also, keep a look out for new friends at your new school. I understand it's more intimidating if these are people you don't talk to much, and you don't know if you will even have anything in common, but again, you have nothing to lose.

If you keep looking and don't give up, there are some really great people out there!

Sometimes it's so hard for to work up the courage to write my friends, even if I know they want to hear from me. And it's exhausting to make that effort. But I feel better if I do it. Friends are made through persistence!

Wouldn't they find it weird though? I was just the quiet guy that knew everyone and most knew me, but it's not like we were really friends. I hardly ever talked except for 3 friends that I lost contact with now. There are so many people from the school that I want to be friends with but I just feel awkward for waiting until now to finally talk. I'm also afraid that they won't remember me and just think I'm a creepy stranger.

People change over time. I was selectively mute up until age 14, when I was forced to enter the work force. Within three years of working with the public, I now not only speak, but find it difficult to shut up. I make eye contact, and have come a long way in other various social queues. I don't think anyone will find it "Weird". It may be surprising, if you are as shy as you say you are. I doubt they would deny a friend request however. Just chat them up, and release your social butterfly! The thing I've learned about people, is they don't need an excuse to talk. It's even more so online. Go for it!