Sometimes I feel like I fail at everything....

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I know its probably unlikely that I fail at 'everything' or 'always' ruin things or am never any use to anyone...but I still get stuck feeling that way. I suppose sometimes I feel like i am trying my hardest to help with something or whatever but just end up screwing it up somehow. Like today I was trying to help a friend of mine make it to work on time...but things ended up taking longer than they should and he was still somewhat late(hes not even upset about it, still worked out ok) but I still felt like crap because I was trying so hard to make it work like we had planned so they would get there on time and in my mind its like 'wow you can't even go without screwing up something that simple'. Then of course I was also trying to help my dad do some scraping(where you gather and take a bunch of metal to sell if you don't know what that is) but got somewhat irritable with that taking longer than we planned so then he got somewhat frusterated at me at one point cause of course he was doing the best he could and I probably came off as nagging too much. So then of course I was feeling kinda crappy about not only screwing up getting them there on time, but then also irritating people by being irritable.

meh.....I just don't know why I can't let these things go without over-analizing it and just realizing 'hey everyone makes stupid mistakes or stuff comes up that might interfere with an otherwise perfectly good plan and it doesn't mean I completely fail at life'. This is one of those moments I honestly think there is the possibility my brain really hates me. I don't really know the point of this thread, just had to get this out rather than having it festering in my head with no outlet....

I often feel exactly that way, the last couple of days and tonight, for instance.

Yeah that can be me too.

I feel like that too. Sometimes I mess up the most simple and obvious tasks. I feel like a burden to the people around me and it's so frustrating.

I either mess up what seems like it will be a simple and obvious task, end up taking too long with things or I somehow end up taking on too much of 'helping' others at once and get overwhelmed and confused then worried about how I will simultaneously screw up multiple things. Of course I put helping in quotations because I don't even know how helpful I am

Very frusterating indeed.

it takes a very good-hearted and decent human being to worry over such things. try to let that sink in.

I did the same when younger,I think as you age you learn to cut yourself some slack.The worst critic is sometimes yourself.

My elder brothers, my dad, and one of my current bosses always make me feel that way by never being happy with anything I do, always whining that something could be done better regardless of how good I have already done. never anything praise or good thing to say, and then of course was the bullies from when I tried my best to defend my self and failed. so any more I try and distance my self from those kinds of negative energy peoples.

And I often still feel that way when it comes to paperwork. or that of trying to make friends or dates because of my social awkwardness. or that of never being able to seem to make relationships work out.

And there have been many times I felt that way because of being over critical of my self but over time and age I learned to cut my self some slack realizing that much of it is programming from some of those people in my life I grew up with.

The only way to really counter that feeling is to try to see what you do that is successful-- hold that in your mind even though it seems like there isn't much to you at the time. I'm sure having a loyal friend who tries her hardest to get her friend to work on time is rare. So often people think they're being considerate but they're just holding onto their agenda while acting like they are pursuing yours. True compassion and friendship is putting another first, obviously which you have done here...

So think not of how the result wasn't what you expected, remember how you were there for your friend when someone else wasn't and feel good that you can put your ego aside to really help someone else out, that is a huge thing in this world, even though the "popular majority" shows otherwise. Those rich in spirit are truly blessed.



---- PS. lots of those kinds of thoughts (I have them too, I have C-PTSD) are holding you back from gaining real confidence, but I'm sure you are aware of that you are very conscious person.

Failing at everything is my specialty. The most simple human interaction trips me every time.