To be or not to be

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That is the question. Is it worth living?

I fell in love about 7 months ago. 3 months ago I was rejected. I'm still in love with the same woman.

I can't forget her. She's the only person I feel a real connection with in this world besides my mother and father.

She and I both live in a small town that is miles away from colleges so I have nowhere to study here. I dropped out of high school and also have coeliac's disease and constant physical tiredness so am not a great prospect for an employee anyway. Career-wise things don't look good for me. I have no friends either because I just can't relate to most people, I want different things.

So should I just put myself out of misery and end this life? This is like the 7th time unrequited love has happened to me. I'm tired of it all.

unrequited love happened to me over and over until i was 52. i just celebrated my fifth anniversary. i'm glad i didn't give up.

Don't give up! I know it is painful (been there myself so many times) but the pain eases after a while.

yep I loved some people and supposedly they loved me too, sucked for while and i moved on. and move on after each rejection but each time i also lose a bit of self esteem.

and 52:o if I'm still single by 35 i kinda plan to die. 9 more hellish years til freedom.

Don't give up, no matter how bleak it looks from your FOV. You'd be denying yourself the chance to ever enjoy anything, ever.

You've got not one but two parents you feel connected to, that makes you a richer man than many. I'm not a parent, but I imagine the loss of a child is devastating and unnatural. Don't do that to your folks!
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I am too much of a physical coward to actually do it, which has been my saving grace up until now.

Still, how would you know if it all has been 'worth it' if you are dead? seriously?

Is it because you cannot cope, or do want to make others feel guilty for mistreating you?

At least you know you are capable of loving and being loved, so that's a start at least. As for rejection, there's a phrase I like to use that's rather self-indulgent, but it's also true; 'well, that's just their loss and I deserve much better anyway'.

Then, you go through your whole life looking for that special someone...but at least rejection doesn't bother you anymore, so whether you find a romantic partner or not becomes totally irrelevant.

I realise you are still in love with this girl and that takes a fair bit of time to get over, but after 'getting over it' time after time, you begin to realise how totally overrated and conditional human love is.

I wish you all the best.

I'll be fine. Bonus time is just around the corner.

I've been in unrequited love with my best friend for 12 years. Right now, I'm happy to feel that love and have that person in my life, even though it is basically quite painful emotionally. I think it's worth it for me in this situation; whether it is worth it for you, I can't tell - depends on the person.