Still sad my mom is going to die

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I feel sad and horrible that it will happen and nothing I can do to change it I am hurting inside and want to let me emotions out. I dedicate this song to not only my mother but to others who feel down, it is time I let it all out![youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LSIHK94IFiM[/youtube]I am crying sorry for being such a wuss and all but its very emotional for me at this time.

It's ok to do that honey. In fact, it's healthy. I still haven't cried over mine yet and that was back in May. I want to but if I start I don't know when I'll stop. Do you have a time frame with this, have they said?

life is funny like that... god gives us some amazing people in our lives... and then he takes them away.... and we spend the rest of our lives feeling screwed, lonely, angry, and bitter.

Family means the world to most aspies... especially parents. Most people don't understand that.

I lost my mother almost 10 years ago. My life has been filled with depression and self-doubt since then. I feel like part of me died along with her because I don't really feel like i'm living... I feel like i'm "putting up" until the day I can leave this crap earth.

I strongly suggest you find a good therapist/psychologist who can talk you through this very hard episode in your life... I think if I had one I would have turned out a little better.

good luck buddy. shoot a message if you want to talk.

You're going to be sad for a long, long time. This is completely acceptable. Normal. Healthy. And sane.

I sniffled over my mother the other day. It was just a wistful sniffle when I saw my daughter in profile and realized how much she looks like my natural mother. Who's been dead since 1989. And I still get a little melancholy wondering what she'd think, or how she'd react, or what kind of grandmother she would have been.

I still SCREAM "Diamonds In the Rough" and SOB LIKE A LOST TODDLER for my father. Who died in 2010. Almost four years ago now.

You are not a wuss. This is, actually, the hardest part. This SUCKS. It's normal, and totally OK, to still be sad.

Anyone who tells you it isn't needs to be corrected. Perhaps unkindly.

Sorry Lost my adopted mom when I was a teen,I still miss her,and I am sad that I never got to have an adult conversation with her,so much I would have like to ask and I'll never know now.Id love to thank her for how kind and patient she was with me and to tell her I'm sorry I was such a troublesome child.

I found being powerless when faced with death difficult to accept, my Dad died in a shooting accident, he went out our front door and never came back. The aftermath was horrendous.

Your pain is drawn out, prolonged. I can not imagine how you feel, knowing the inevitable, it must be torture. Its good that you are letting it out, grief is too powerful and toxic to bottle it up inside of you. Be whatever way you need to be to deal with this; it is bittersweet to watch a loved one suffer. You have her in your life today, if you can, make today count and each one after that. Having a cry about this is healthy, its a release of hormones if nothing else, don't feel like a wuss. Take care of yourself.

Too bad Alchemy isnt real I would attempt to save her but then again would probably lose my arm and leg in the process.

hugs

sorry i can't do more

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Losing a parent is never easy and everyone processes it differently, so please don't be hard on yourself.

Has your family gotten involved with your local Hospice? Sometimes those organizations have services to support the entire family. At least at the one in my area, family members can attend support groups and workshops even if their family member is not a hospice patient.

When my dad died, he didn't have a permanent address and I didn't learn about it until later, so I didn't work with hospice myself and can't speak from personal experience, but I've had a lot of clients where I work who have said the hospice staff helped them out a lot, both before and after losing their family member.

*hugs*

*Hugs AspieOtaku*. I am so sorry.

*hugs back* Thank you and no your not an angry feminist your a caring feminist!

Thank you.

Your welcome and *hugs again* I never knew you were feminist until I made that angry feminist thread in the past but I did care about you and still do and find you as a sweet person, I no longer hold a grudge against the feminist movement because I realize that the one who gave me life was a woman and soon in due time she will be gone. I have never felt this hurt in a long long time its horrible! I don't know what do do when she is gone.

c'mere AO
*hugs*

As a mommy, I am glad you love your mother so much. Mine was really the only family I had, despite having so many aunts, uncles and cousins. My life has been scary without her but I've made it for 10 years. I still talk to her sometimes anyway, just to tell her about funny stories she'd like or about new stuff that's been built in our city. It's weird that so much has changed in the past decade.

((hug)) I hope you're showering her with affection and telling her how much she means to you every day!