f--king stress out

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Im stressed out.
Girlfriend problems
It's hard for me to socialize.
Im stuck in a rut. I hate having social anxiety,I
hate having OCD.I hate getting a GF,
who weeks later end up being ''flakey''

it's just sucks...Im in torment..it's sucks.
f--k all my problem.

Women, huh ?
What's up with all of those f*ckers ?
eh ?

Bitching about them on WrongPlanet is at least slightly above harassing them if they know about your account. I know how you feel.

hmmmmm....
.. .. I'll bet that in some alternative dimension version of WP a female version of billiscool keeps making topics along the lines of :

"Wow I am so annoyed.
I have social anxiety and it's been so hard to get a boyfriend... and now that I have one, he keeps on two timing me with some other girlfriend ! !!
And he chats up anything with tits (cute women at his local gym etc) and thinks that is totally fine.... he'll invite women to be his "number three" girlfriend and thinks that is just great.... but I'm not meant to do the same with hot guys, or ever get annoyed with him - WTF ! !??
And while I'm not perfect in this relationship, he literally does truly feel that he is... he thinks that he does nothing wrong... like, seriously !?
I tried to leave once, but he slagged me off until I got back together with him just to get him to stop, I've been depressed lately and know I shouldn't have gone back to him... but well, here I am now.... but it's so annoying ! !! !
I've been playing it cool with him for a while now, hoping that he will get the hint and knock off the womanizing... but he just doesn't seem to ever get the message.
He is just so damn flakey.... and it's left me in torment ! !! "

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I don't think you understand, XFilesGeek. She is making a point to billiscool of how he treats his girlfriends, and is giving them their point of view. It's funny because she pointed out the hypocrisy. I hope he takes a mental note of it.

I agree.

Honestly, if one wants to solve relationship problems, they ought to put themselves in the other's shoes. I'm not sure it was anyone's intent to offend.

I understand the point she was making; however, I do not believe that her posts were keeping with the intent of The Haven.

If anyone is confused, I suggest re-familiarizing yourself with The Haven guidelines:

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt238432.html

Thank you.

^this.

While I dont with most of his opinions, it does not make his stress bad emotions less real.

I suppose that post could be perceived as passive-aggressive, but a good point was made; if he doesn't put himself in his girlfriends' (pl.?) shoes, he can't hope to change his situation.

I can't put it quite as well as LWW did, but I'll attempt to rephrase her post without sarcasm.

1. He could be treating his girlfriend unfairly without knowing it; I can't say I would be okay with sharing a boyfriend with a couple other girls. Be understanding.
2. No one is perfect, and saying you're the perfect boy/girlfriend who's never done anything wrong in the relationship proves that you're not.
3. It's good to listen to your partner about their concerns and figure out if there's something you might want to change about your behavior.
4. Placing all the blame on one person will not help the situation, especially if you don't understand their point of view; I know I do plenty of things wrong without noticing, but others could point these behaviors out for me in a heartbeat.

I saw another thread a while back that got locked. Same OP, didn't seem to accept the advice that was repeatedly tossed to him?advice found in the content of LWW's posts. But, I suppose I'll put it out there again.

Perhaps a private message that is less sarcastic and more down to earth would have been a better way, however. A psychiatrist who sees the subject as creating their own problems doesn't do this sort of thing, and I believe the Haven is supposed to act in a similar matter

some updates.Im better now.The 3rd Gf Im done with,I respect
her but she f--k it up.Im still friends with my 4th GF(or ex gf).
The 3rd GF,screwed up,she ruined the relationship.
But that how it is.Too bad for her.

The 4th GF is sweet and she's a good lady.