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I cannot get a job. I was on a career path but got derailed by autistic burnout. Now my work history is sketchy and no one will bite.
It seems from reading a neurotypical perspective on Love and Dating, that I am not suitable for a longterm relationship because my autism is too burdonsome for a potential partner. I suspect this to be true.
I'd like to kill myself, but my pesky survival instinct is too strong.

If only society was more respectful of prostitution. I am really good at sex and and am sure I could make a monetary killing and gain independence. As a relationship is not going to work because I'm defectve, I think I may pursue this avenue.

Honestly, I think I've exhausted all other options. I'm on disability, but I would prefer to earn money.

The thing is that what I have to offer is not valued. I can hope that this changes, but it won't in my lifetime.

I'm sorry you're feeling this way today.

What career path were you on previously?

Remember you said you might be able to make money off your writing?

Even in Nevada, where it's legal in rural areas (not in Las Vegas or Reno), I don't think prostitution would suit you.

*****HUGS***** from KK

Actually, I think you'd be surprised. If I had a choice between working a 4 hour cashier shift at the grocery store or giving some guy a blow job, I'd choose the blow job. Much less effort, much greater profit. Due to past relationship fiascos I have experience giving blow jobs and having sex with men that I don't particularly like. Long stories, don't ask. But it's really not that hard.
I googled the cost of such things and I could definitely make some money. The trick will be getting clients. The illegality of it makes it somewhat dangerous, but I'm a clever cookie.

No response from the magazine, kk; my torpedoed career was as a library assistant.

Canada is full of jobs I'd love considering my AS, and I'm pretty sure I'd be a rather lackluster prostitute ; basically anything in the ski industry can be interpreted as a vacation with paid hours, road work up there is far more precise & lucrative due to the latitude, and if you pick up some cooler habits, perhaps you could be a mayor!

Canada also lacks the U.S.A.'s 25 year or older auto import restrictions, if you learned Japanese/Swedish/German cars as they relate to you, you could flip a lot of really nice fixer-uppers. I'm thinking about dual citizenship just for this reason. Hippie vans as interpreted in Canada are some of the nicest in the world.

Really though, I've seen Vancouver's skid row and was not pleased.

Haha, I don't think the business sector would appreciate my vision of the city.


Yeah, I'll get right on that one, lol.


Cool


I've never been to the west coast. But I've heard it can be bad in Vancouver.

I'll stick with Kingston. Although, the winters are dreadful.

Seriously, though. This prostitution thing, I think I could be on to something. I have accepted that a relationship is not going to happen for me, due to my being burdensome, so it doesn't matter what a future mate may think of it. Other than safety, I'm not sure why this is a bad idea. I'm already on disability, so it's not like my status matters.
And truly, sex is just a physical thing - I've had more disturbing physical encounters at the doctor's office.

I cannot get a job. I was on a career path but got derailed by autistic burnout. Now my work history is sketchy and no one will bite.

Ok, but just because no one bit so far, doesn't mean no one will ever. Jobs are either tough or ridiculously tough to get and you can't value yourself based on job responses.

It seems from reading a neurotypical perspective on Love and Dating, that I am not suitable for a longterm relationship because my autism is too burdonsome for a potential partner. I suspect this to be true.

"a neurotypical perspective on Love and Dating" ??? Never believe anything you read in the Hate and Discontent forum. Anyway, its more a process of self learning and finding the right partner... which is harder then finding a good job. Can't you realisticly imagine the right person for you? If you can then they exsist.

Honestly, I think I've exhausted all other options. I'm on disability, but I would prefer to earn money.

If you are on disability, and can survive on that then it makes no sense to take on a illegal (there) and potentially dangerous job. Just the STD potential alone is scary enough, and it can get progressively worse from there safety wise.

The thing is that what I have to offer is not valued.

Outside of immediate family/loved ones I don't think society really values anybody. We are all pretty much cogs in the machine. But anyway, think in terms of adjusting or learning new skills with good job prospects. It doesn't have to be rocket science, just a something in demand, that you can do, or learn to do.

True.


I'll try. : ) Thanks. My cog must fit somewhere.

A lot of women complain about a lot of men. Love and dating describes as an AS thing, but the complaints of women married to AS men, or men they consider to have AS, are so similar to the complaints other women have about nonAS partners---please don't let that stuff sway you to hopelessness.

Somebody asked why she, the Aspie, was in charge of the family activities, not saying it's always that way. Just that women's complaints about men are maybe more about nonAS things! And same for me. My husband may complain about me and, but guess who is in charge of all school interactions, goes alone and manages at meetings, schedules appointments, deals with most of the hurt feelings? The Aspie mom. I'm sure there's is variation in different families. But often men's and women's roles do fit stereotypes by gender more than by neurological wiring.

Just wanted to add a thought I had. Writing is one of the toughest fields for employment I suspect, but there is a abysmal level of quality in the internet news and article genre. I do all my news and topic reading there now (rather then papers or TV) and can't believe what passes as 'professional' articles.

Ann, I may have been one of the ones that accidentally made you feel bad. First off, I'm really cynical about human beings. People who aren't as cynical as me, seem to find the kind of life you are looking for. Also, even if you are on disability, there are things you can do. I think people may hear the word disability and have a knee jerk reaction, but if you are an interesting person and have something they can put a value on (like sense of humor or unique perspective), then you won't be any more undesirable than anybody else who has some problem or another. THere are a million stigmas in the world, just because you have one of them, does not mean your life is hopeless.

Prostitution is REALLY dangerous. Unless you can do that $500 a night stuff, then you'd be rich. Haha Elliot Spitzer might come around. I wouldn't really recommend it though, but then that might be my cynicism again.

Waterfalls, I suppose it does come down to the individual rather than any labels.

Toy Soldier, I believe that networking and establishing contacts have a lot to do with getting published. There is some abysmal writing being published for sure.

Wozeree, I suppose I do have things to offer the world.

It just really brings me down when things that I thought I could strive for are not within my grasp because of what I am.

if you weren't in Canada and anti gun, I'd date you you seem really nice and sweet.

what if you got STD and life got worse. :S and once you get a std you're done in that field as no guy will pay to get an std.
seems too risky. Also a bit mean of a field for such a sweet girl like you.

I Like cashiering. I'ts not for everyone though. I bet there's something you can do that you'll enjoy

permission to hug?

If you want to supplement your income, and can keep yourself safe, why not?

Ever thought about getting a Master's in Library Science?

Permission granted
You seem nice too.
Actually I'm not anti-gun. One cannot uninvent something, even if it is extremely dangerous. I was actually thinking of joining a gun club to learn how to use a handgun, but they are very exclusive and expensive.

Kk, I have considered getting my MLS, but it is expensive and the market is saturated with librarians.

Vicky, I agree.

Well, Tim Horton's is hiring for midnights. I guess I'll try them tomorrow.

HUGS tightly.
o.O

well do you know anyone who owns guns? I know west coast canada they can shoot non restricted guns on their properties or out in the woods. If you lived here I'd take you out and let you shoot mine, maybe have a picnic afterwards.

who is Tim Horton?

could I pay you for ongoing nightly cuddles with occasional pleasuring you?

you really seem like a great woman. I think you are too hard on yourself. I can tell you in the right area two people with low income can do ok. so nothing to worry there I think, having extra money is nice, I hope you can find a side job.

I do the seasonal cashier job and get 100-160 every 3 months it isn't much but it's more then nothing. To be honest I could be happy in a two disabled income relationship even without a job. There isn't any SSI/SSDI dating sites though

also you Canadians tend to have sexy voices. Though I have only voice chatted with two women from the north. If Canada had kept the gun freedoms they have and added all the ones we had, I might move there if I could. you all seem to be more accepting and non picky. although I did meet two men who kept threatening to knock my block off.

would you ever want to Skype text or fb message? I can always use more people to talk to.

hugs tight again.