Not just an ASD victim but a total loser

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I am a total loser. I have no job, and I have no car to get to a job. Parents are unhelpful. I am old enough to move out, but apart from my age, I have nothing. I have no money, no car, no license to drive a car and my parents are negative about the idea of me going to work because they tell me it will risk my SSI benefits. I don't want to rely only on pitiful amount of monthly money until the day I die but I am afraid this is all I can ever get at most. If I work, I would still end up with less money than before, and my parents don't want to support my idea of working. Without any ride. I can't get to work, and I have none available.

I feel like I am in jail. The only option I I believe to have is to just walk away and be homeless, and I am afraid I would be homeless permanently. If there's any support resources for absolute losers like me, please notify me of them. I am still alive, yet my life is over. This is me, one of America's biggest losers undeserving to breath. Even criminals convicted with felony (no offense to them, we all make mistakes and some of us might end up in their shoes someday) have more of a chance in life than I do. This is shame. What is the first thing I can do to get out of this mess?

Is it true that working will destroy my SSI benefits? I know that some who receive SSI do work, but have a portion of it subtracted after making like 65 dollars (which is totally understandable), but having me cut off? I am in a black hole and I've yet to find an answer.

I really can't say what the rules are for working while on SSI. They are completely different than for SSDI. Your best bet would be to talk to an attorney versed in Developmental Disabilities and Social Security Law.

Working can endanger your benefits, yes. Even if you don't make the minimum monthly amount, if you look like you might be able to do it, they'll cancel your benefits.

Are you in a rural area, small city, what?

You are NOT a loser; at least you aspire to improve yourself.

Have you been to college? If not, maybe you could let SSI work for you. The government could pay your tuition.

You should also make plans to be independent of your parents; they seem to stymie you.

If you don't feel happy with your current life you should make changes. I know this is hard but it's the only thing that's going to change anything.

Where I live you can not even do voluntary work without risking losing your income. It's really sad. They should encourage working not discourage it.

And YOU ARE NOT A LOSER!

Thanks for the replies, but what can I do to change it? I need support but have none. Most people that moved out of home done so with support from their parents. This is not going to be the case for me. I live a few miles out of a small town.

It is true that working will cut off your SSI. I also live with my parents, I used to get SSI but after my mom retired I got switched over to SSDI. I lived in apartments between 18-23 yo and in a travel trailer behind my grandparents' house from 23 to 30, then moved back in with my parents. I can't work either, I tried but couldn't handle it. I am saving money from my check to buy some land in Oregon where I can live alone. Maybe you can save some money and move elsewhere. At least I can drive. What is keeping you from driving, is it AS related or simply your parents not wanting you to drive?

Don't wake sleeping dogs is my advice. Never call them personally. You will really wake sleeping dogs. I have seen this happen before.

Call social security and tell them that you would like to make an appointment with someone from the PASS plan and also someone from the 'ticket to work " program. They can explain both to you.

Other than a small amount of money, you will be penalized fifty percent of every dollar you earn, up until you no longer are eligible to receive benefits. Also, if there is mass transit in your area, there is most likely a steep discount for monthly bus passes for the disabled.Are your folks giving you a decent amount of your ssi check or only the $30 minimum [assuming that they are payees] If they are the payees, you can ask the court for a different one, or see if they will allow you to manage your own finances.

I feel kind of simular, and am also on SSI and have no drivers liscense. Though from what I understand you can work some and still get SSI but you would have to look up how that works in your state, I think they have some programs to help you find employment while still staying on SSI to supplement income you make...sometimes its easier to just go to the SSI office and talk to someone though at least for me since its difficult over the phone. But yeah, maybe before trying to work doing some volunteer stuff might give you a little experience working with people and such...I doubt my ability to attain employment anytime soon.

But yeah SSI income sucks, obviously people are on SSI for difficulties being able to work so that can get in the way of switching to employment...I have considered homelessness, but not sure I'd make a very good bum though depending on how things go I might have to give it a go.

But yeah I pay my mom 300$ rent a month so leaves me with a little over 400$ to split up between my needs like food, health related things, meds, then of course I don't want to sit around all the time so I use some for bus money to get around and also to use for activities/things I enjoy but I tend not to have much left for that.

Sweetleaf; The Gathering Place, on High street and Colfax has activities you might enjoy. I was thinking specifically of "the card project"
You don't have to be a great artist to participate,and when your cards sell, you get paid cash, non- reportable cash. They also have some writing groups, and all sorts of things. As for jumping on a bus, RTD monthly pass is half price if you are disabled.