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My mother gave her notice for the end of August to move into a bachelor because we have been bickering so much. We are both fed up with each other. I got a tenant to take her place, but then her place fell through. So out had to back out on my guy (which sucks) and we are back to square one. I can't transfer because we failed out inspection again. Too many pets. Plus I can't apply anywhere else because I have a bankruptcy. So it looks like we're stuck together. The super told me off again for smoking weed - arggg. I'm really starting to dislike this place. So now Mom wants to get a cheaper place, but still share. Which makes sense as she can actually get a lease and we really can't afford this place.

I don't like for things to be so unsettled though. I would like to get a place of my own, but the only way I can get something I can afford is to wait on the social housing registry which can take up to 5 years for a bachelor. In the meantime I think Mom and I are stuck with each other. Plus she might have MS (she's being tested soon.) This will put me in the position of care giver which I will have to do my best at, but honestly I'm terrible at care-giving.

And still no job. I feel like taking a long walk into the wilderness.

Best wishes to both of you.

Hi Ann,

Sorry everything fell through

{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}

Probably, a walk in a forest would do you good.

Hope things get better,sorry to hear about your Mom's health problems.
How does the super know you are smoking?To keep the smell from leaking out under your door,place a wet towel at the bottom and turn on the exhaust fan on the stove.

I wonder if pot would help with MS.

^Its suppose to help with the tremors and muscle spasms.

Right, well . . . I have placed a towel under our door as a barrier to smell. Bit stupid on my part really .. . I generally keep my bedroom door closed with the window open, but I was distracted. Mom and I have reached a detente but it is precarious. We will stay put as I think our situation is good as long as we can just get along. So a whole lot of fuss to end up in the same place, but so be it. I have gotten rid of the dining room table and have set up an office - I will try to write something everyday even if I hate it.
Anyway . . . *hugs* - I don't know how my life can be such a challenge to me even when absolutely nothing is happening. Good Lord.

Wow, I don't know how fractured your relationship with her is, but maybe you can set some rules that you both agree on by telling her that you are both dependent on each other and if either of you bails, the other one will be in a jam. You could try to set limits that both of you can live with. It's not easy with family though, especially MOMS.