Nowhere To Turn To

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There's just nowhere to turn to. The world is an amazing place with many things I want to learn about but my pathetic socialising is a severe restriction. I'd like to go hill-walking or go on expeditions to climb mountains abroad... ...but that involves being around people. Why am I - and why are we - cursed with this Asperger's thing.

I dont have an answer as to why but can relate to your desire to do things that you feel are impossible do to social phobias or awkwardness.The best I have done is to try one other person who shares my interests(collecting rocks,walking in woods,camping)and do activities with them.I am to afraid of being "molested,murdered"to do activities on my own in isolated places..It sucks now that I am with someone who doesnt share those interests with me and is actually intolerant of "nature".I miss it.

Right now I'm waiting for a diagnosis, so I've got everything on Hold. And the wait is so long I think I might start without them, and without the Occupational Therapist who is supposed to teach me social skills etc.

I want to join the Book Club at the library, the Scrabble Club, an exercise group, even a drop-in center. But now I know that I'm going to annoy everybody. I know why and I know it can be fixed.

Temple Grandin wrote a book about adults and what to do, which chapters like the difference between lying and diplomacy (aha!). I ordered that one. I can see that I want all her books.

Also I hit eBay and started buying autistic stuff for kids. Some of those things are right on.

So there is hope, is what I'm trying to say. Somehow, with a cocktail made of WP, books, docs, etc., we'll find out how to create a nice life for ourselves.

Also - if people rejected you all your life, it wasn't you exactly. It was unguided AS, which is a situation that you are fixing. Not your fault that society is slow.

Knowing your limitations and issues, be conscious of your actions and begin participating. Siting in the back, and listening doesn't usually bother anybody. It's hard to piss off anybody by being too quiet. You may find people in these groups who like you as you are anyways. There are quiet individuals in every group

It worked for me for years before I even heard about aspergers. I just hung in the back, stayed quiet and tried to absorb how the group worked then worked on fitting in as best as I could. It's not perfect but it's better than sitting home alone.

Just try not to say stupid stuff while you're with people. Also, you don't have to talk with other people in order to be with them. Just keep on walkin'.

I can see what you mean. I don't like being with people-yet I want to go to Japan when I get older. I can't see how that'll work. I haven't been daignosed yet, but I know I have it or at least something like it.