I'm losing my grip.

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I've been taking medications which helped my add, which in turn helped me stop acting weird in front of people. I was able to actually take a few extra moments to stop myself from doing something awkward and autistic . I increased my dosage but I feel I am starting to lose control. It is so hard staying normal, at work, at home where I live with roommates. I considered living alone next year but it is getting increasingly expensive to live alone. I thought for awhile, being around my weird roommates actually helped me act normal. I would see their behavior, experience that awkward feel in my stomach and think: " example 3025 on how not to act."
But lately ,I been slipping and losing control and it seems to be getting worst, I feel like I'm slipping back into behaviors which I thought I had learned to stop or at least control.

I guess living with roommates and going to work with people is wearing me out, and I need to live alone so I can at least I can relax a little more and save my mental energy during the day.
I really thought I had this under more control but I am losing my grip.

Im not depressed or suicidal, I am just mentally tired from trying to constantly be in control all the time. One of my biggest goals to have a relationship or friendship with a normal person or someone who is semi normal at the least. But I don't think I can because hiding everything all the time takes too much of what little energy I have left

You need to stop trying to be "normal" and to fit in with "normal" people. They're all faking it, too, they're just faking it more successfully. Normal is fakery; "normal" people just fake better. Everyone just wants to be like everyone else and to fit in, and it's done through fakery. People who don't fake well enough put the fakers on guard, then they defend their own fakery by putting that embarrassing realness down.

It really isn't worth the energy -- not even for the good fakers (they'll realize this when they're old and it's too late). Find a friend who you actually like. Living alone is good, if you can manage it.