Why aren't I good enough for a woman how I am?

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Why must men have to change who they are. I can't change being poor it's something your born into and die with. Some lucky few get out but I have the deck stacked against me being born wrong with aspergers.

Your attitude is incorrect. That holds you back total truth

Obviously because you don't join my fan-club and learn my techniques.
(Okay, the real reason I am posting, because post-count over-powered).

Feel free to stay as you are, but that is unnatural, just as unnatural as one who insists on remaining in the 3rd grade and never wanting to proceed into the 4th or 5th, etc.

Last edited by Ban-Dodger on 26 May 2016, 7:41 pm, edited 1 time in total.

You don't have to change who you are. You can stay poor if you want to.

You don't have to change who you are, but it is your attitude and not your lack of money nor aspergers that is stopping you from being "good enough" for a woman.

How do you expect a woman to fall in love with you, if you hate yourself?

Let me tell you something Sly, I am poor. I live pay to pay, running out of money days before I get paid again. I have debt. I too have aspergers. Yet, I have an amazing girlfriend / fiance.

It is very easy to blame something that is beyond your control and claim that the world is against you, but the truth of the matter is, the only one responsible for the position you are in is you. It is much easier to complain than do something about it and that too is your choice to make.

I have been there, I have been where you are. I understand, which is why I am telling you all of this.

We all have our own difficulties in life, and I'd be willing to bet that I was dealt a worse hand than you.
And yes, I was upset at the world for sometime, but it wasn't until I took responsibility for my life that I actually realized I was in charge of my own happiness, my future was mine to make. Obviously I couldn't click my fingers and get a girl and make money appear, but I could set myself on the right track, I could become a better person.

And you know what? It was hard work, and I am still me. I'm still not really fond of this world and how it works, but I accept the hand I was dealt and I do the best I can with it, instead of throwing my cards down on the table and quitting and claiming it is all to hard.

It took 30 years, but I am now happy and only because I took control after years of blaming everything else but myself.

My attitude has nothing to do with it snd I don't hate myself women hate me. I like myself ok, but everywhere I go I have women saying I'm not good enough.

Part time retail is the best I can do. There's no up from here. I went to college I got great grades, I graduated. There's no redo, they won't give men student aid any,ore to go back to college. I can't work in the field I got a degree in, so it's useless. I don't have any experience in any other field, they won't hire anyone without experience and connections to the boss, I have neither. It's an employers market, there's way more people looking for work then there's jobs. So they can demand experience even though unless they hire people they can't get the experience. 170 people applied a retail position at my company. For s part time min wage job, that shows how bad economy is.

I improved,. Year ago I only had a seasonally job, but my improve nts don't matter. I also lost weight, I dress better, I shave, I keep my hair short.

So just accept I can't change, I get get a better job. Most the women here won't give s guy a chance unless he has a good job. Then there's all the incompatible issues on top of it. Really slims down my odds.

If most women want guys to accept them as who they are why can't they accept guys for who they are.

There's this apparently fat and unemployed lady on cl complaining guys shouldn't judge her on her size then goes on to say she only date a thin athletic guy with a good job. What a f*****g hypocrite.

And she's bigger then me.

I can't afford to hire someone to help me go through for all the profiles and tell me who I might have a chance with.

Also I don't want a gf when I'm 60

Aside from robbing banks there's no way for me not to be poor.

Ok then your doomed and things will never improve

What exactly is making your life-style so expensive that you cannot accumulate any savings ?
Inflation ? Too many subscriptions for unnecessary dis-services like cable-television ?
Are you always going out to eat instead of buying food from the grocery stores ?
Are food-prices inflating to become so high that you're better off growing your own ?
Does your electric-bill somehow exceed a reasonable amount to take over 50% of your income ?
Are you slave-labouring in order to pay rent to a slave-master to keep a roof over you ?
Does all of your money somehow go into paying all manners of taxes to a thieving state ?
Does your definition of poor solely rest upon the job-title that you are working in retail ?

Are you possessed by some sort of spirit that insists that you stay poor for-ever ?
Why does it matter to you as to whether or not you have a woman's attention ?
Have you considered stowing away on a ship to another country to lead a new life instead ?
Anyway, just going to let you know, many "spirits/discarnate-personalities" are also in your exact same situation.

Maybe you just haven't met the right woman yet? If the women you have been around don't accept you for who you are, that's their loss! Forget them. There's plenty of fish in the sea. Try "fishing" elsewhere. Or stop fishing for a while and enjoy whatever interests you. Sometimes the right person comes along when you least expect it. I met my husband totally out of the blue. I went to visit a church I had never been to before. He was an usher and handed me a bulletin and took the time to welcome me. He invited me for a ride on his motorcycle after church because I had never been on one. The rest is history, we've been together for 41 years. Prior to that he had been trying to meet women at bars and I had been trying to meet guys at school. I know of another couple who met on a Greyhound bus ride. You never know when or where you might meet someone. Stay hopeful.

which woman? there is no generic "woman"
to think of being "good enough" is a sad and lamentable aspect of your character.
you have an insecurity about the inherent value of yourself that must be unbearable to live with.
there are so many women in the world, one must surely be compatible with you. i personally could not be bothered to find them. i am happy to know they are somewhere within 8000 miles (in a direct line) of me, but you think they do not exist because you are so uniquely unlikeable or something.




you must feel bad i guess. i wish i had more compassion. i do have some, but probably not enough.
the clock is ticking in your young mind like you are losing the race and can never catch up.

the fact you feel so worthless in your natural state must stick out like a "sore thumb" (learned saying) to everyone who sees you.

just imagine boarding a jetliner and then seeing the pilot come aboard shaking with uncertainty about his ability to fly it. you would get off immediately i assume.

some people have no success and no talent. but they can have honesty and just admit it and then they have honesty which is more important than talent or success. especially if you are not ashamed of having nothing.
best way to be in the world really is to be totally unashamed about the fact you did not get may gifts in this life.

I know 60 year old women who are quite attractive, and are great in the sack because they don't fear pregnancy.

You just might succeed at 60!

what an awful criterion.
60 year old women are spent. they are haggard and tired mainly, and the ones that are not are not attractive either if you are talking in terms of sex. they are kind of worn out.

not a good way to make a 28 year old optimistic about the future of his sex life.

Not the 60-year-old women I've seen in the street in NYC!

Many of them keep themselves well, in good shape, are very feminine, and exude attractiveness.

I'm 55 years old. And if I wasn't married, I would go for at least some of the older women whom I see in the street.

I'm not "used up." I have about the same "sexual capacity" as I did when I was in my 20's.

yes i know i am shallow in this respect, but sexual appeal is greatest between about 22 and 35 for me. younger than 22 have pimples and hormonal blotches and silly ideas and stuff, and older than 35 have seen many days that have worn them out.

i am not attracted to women my age physically because i just am not. they are too old looking.
i am not attracted physically to any woman enough to get aroused about it, but women between the ages of 22 and 35 are very healthy looking.

i could not imagine in my worst nightmare, having to sleep beside a 60 year old woman let alone touch her.
sorry about that but if it makes me less valuable as a person, then it is a price i am forced to pay.

It has nothing to do with my attitudes

Do any of you use dating sites? People don't see you.

Non of you get it and would rather just attack me