I was divorced in 2004 after a 20 year marriage. The ex remarried within 12 months, which was fine with me. She had found someone who could give her the happiness I was incapable of bringing her. All good and well, FF to Jan 2 and suddenly she is trying to contact me from 1300 miles away where they had moved. Her husband had died of a heart attack. I know she does not want anything from me but my ear, which again, is fine. but surprising. I understand. We have a familiarity even if there was no real physical compatibility. She is better equipped to deal with society than am I, but there is really noone now in her life that she can confide in. Still, I am at a loss because I have no idea what to do or say. Just companionship while she gets through all of this I guess.