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My sister is going to get an apartment with someone else, since I will most likely not be able to get there for a few months (longer now, considering I won't have a place to stay right off the bat if I just pack up and go). Not that I blame her, but it sucks. And my brother isn't making it very clear what he wants to do, which irritates the heck out of me. We have to make PLANS if we want something to happen, but he seems to have no idea what he's going to do after graduating. He mentioned going to a community college. He also said he thinks it's "weird" for siblings to get a place together (is it?). But if I ask him what he actually wants to do, he says "idk" and if I give him suggestions he just says, "maybe".

So now I'm probably stuck here. I might as well just get an apartment by myself. I just don't think it's a good idea for me to live alone for several reasons. The main one being that it puts me in a situation where I could easily act on suicidal thoughts, as I wouldn't be deterred by the idea of someone possibly stopping me, which is one of the only things that stopped me in the past. And also, I feel like something bad would happen and I wouldn't know how to deal with it all alone. Not to mention the fact that apartments around here are freaking expensive.

Last time I lived relatively independently, I completely ran out of food and money. Not to mention the fact that I was very intent on suicide, and the only missing component was a method. I think my case got overlooked because when they asked, "Have you made plans?" and I said "No", because I wasn't done planning yet. I needed to make sure it would work.

I finally figured out something that would almost definitely work though. If I was alone, I could easily pull it off. Which would make me want to try even more.

Do you know anybody whom you could trust who just happens to be looking for an apartment?

Also: Don't you live in a college town? Look on the bulleting board. I'm sure some poor student with a crappy job is looking for a roommate to share expenses. Make sure you have a contract in writing, though, when you get the apartment. It would preferable if you paid the rent by check. If you pay by cash, MAKE SURE you get a receipt.

No, I don't know anyone. I don't have any friends here.

And as far as finding a roommate, I've looked mostly on craigslist. Most of them are girls "LOOKING FOR A UNIQUE FEMALE" or something similar. And when I do find one that might work, I'm deterred by the fact that they provide little detail about the place. Also, just the way they write it makes me think they are either unintelligent, or they are putting in no effort to find a decent roommate (some might even be scams, I don't know).

I'll keep looking, I'm just not sure I'll find anything. Maybe I'm getting too hung up on details, but I feel like they should include more than just the rent cost.

And plus I just get anxious from the idea of talking to people I don't know at all, and possibly staying with them and giving them my money. People seem to enjoy screwing me over. Who knows what some random person posting ads is going to be like.

You're right...Craigslist is not really good for that. Maybe you could look on the bulletin board of your local community college? It would be great if you could find somebody to share the bills with. A college student would be ideal, because they (usually) want to get ahead in the world, and don't think ripping people off will assist them in that endeavor.

A not-bad situation would be living in an apartment complex. They always provide leases and they are regulated more than individual landlords.

Do you still have a car?

Or maybe your relatives might know somebody who knows somebody.....

Always have a written contract saying how long your lease is, and how much you'll be paying a month. And try to pay by check, instead of by cash. If you pay by cash, MAKE SURE YOU GET A RECEIPT. Establish all this BEFORE you move in.

My step mom texted me to tell me she found a place (my grandparents have been telling them I'm hard to deal with apparently, my dad said something along those lines). It's $520 a month. That's about a third of my monthly paycheck before taxes.

I do have a car, I only owe 400 more on it which I can pay next month. But the other problem is, I need my wisdom teeth out for $700 next month, and I also need braces which is going to be over $2000 after insurance. I can wait a bit on the braces, but I don't want to reschedule my appointment with the oral surgeon, on the 6th of February. Assuming there's a $250 security deposit, I won't have enough for anything if I move in to this apartment right away.

I am more comfortable with the apartment itself since it is a complex and will be less sketchy. But I feel like I'd need to wait until March 1st to move in because of money issues, and someone might take it by then.

I thought your dad's insurance was paying for the extraction of the wisdom teeth.

$520 a month---not bad! That sort of rent doesn't exist in New York--unless it's a small room in a run-down building.

You should look in Zillow. Just type in the area where you want to live, and the price range you want.

I think you should take the place and postpone the wisdom teeth. Finding a good spot is more important.
I have recently been living alone and I dreaded it, but I'm actrally starting to like it.
If you feel suicidal, ie START making plans, talk to your doctor ASAP.

The insurance does pay half, but I guess all four is a lot of money.

I went in and filled an application for the apartment my step mom found, he told me the one I'm looking at just got re-done with new carpet, paint etc so I assume it's pretty nice. He said if I give him $200 he can hold it for me until I have enough to pay the deposit and rent (he said the $200 will go towards my safety deposit, but if change my mind it's unrefundable). And he said he can show me the apartment tomorrow so I can look at it.

Ugh... I just don't want to reschedule my appointments. When I get home I will see if I can calculate how much I'd need in order to pay for everything (though I still don't know the exact cost for my teeth, she was only estimating). If I give him the $200 in advance like he said, I can move in halfway through the month and pay half the rent for February.

So many expenses -_-

See it tommorow. If you like it, give him the deposit and put the dental work on hold.

Such is life, my friend. Expenses.....

Doesn't it feel good to be growing up?

You're not doing too badly! You have a car, and you will have an apartment.

You're doing pretty well for yourself.

When I was 19, I was still living with my mother (though I paid 1/3 of the rent). I didn't get my own car until I was 51 years old!

He also said the room I'd be getting is close enough to Pizza Hut that I'd possibly be able to steal their Wi-Fi from my apartment

Cool

Being on my own was spooky at first, but I am feeling empowered by my independence.

Wouldn't investing about 50 bucks in a router give you Wi-Fi as well? Or do you need some kind of internet plan?

Aren't you going to have some kind of cable TV? Maybe, where you are, you could get a "triple play" for under $100 a month.

Or you could get something like Roku. I'm not too familiar with this. Maybe others could chime in. Maybe all you have to do is get a router like Roku, and you'll have internet, Wi-Fi, and will be able to stream TV shows.

I think I'd need a plan, but I'm not sure. I am on my mom's phone plan , and I rooted my android so I can use the tethering feature without paying for it, so at least I'll have that. I can't use too much data though, so watching lots of videos isn't an option.

I have no idea about cable. I'll look up information on the thing you're talking about though.