Feel like dropping out of everything

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I am trying to make money and go to school so I can have a job I like. But the job I have now is stressing me out horribly (teaching) because of the interpersonal stuff. And school is stressing me out, also because of the interpersonal s**t. Our mortgage is too high and so are our other expenses, and I'm considering ditching it all, quitting school, quitting the job, selling the house, and moving to a shack in the woods with an outside shower and outhouse. Seriously - my husband's family has a place we can rent for a fraction of our mortgage.

But I don't know what to do. I've had this professional dream for years, but I can't handle what it's taking to get there. I don't know what I'd do with myself if I didn't work in my profession. I also don't know if I could handle not having a bathroom. I just wish people were nicer so I could live in their world. Never gonna happen though. I wish I could develop thicker skin - but I can't no matter how many times I get shat on it still hurts.

sorry, i can't really give you any advice since i'm still in high school...go through the storm and there will be a rainbow at the end? that's all i can think of.

Do you qualify for a student loan so you can quit your job?

Life is hard and ugly, but it would be harder and uglier with no bathroom.

Is there a more solitary job you could do?

Am already getting student loans but they barely cover tuition.

I can't imagine a job I'd enjoy doing. Maybe it's just my mindset is so negative and self-deprecating these days.

I understand fully. I was very content when I didn't have to do anything. If I was still young, I'd be trying to arrange that kind of situation again. How does your husband feel about it?

This is why you shouldn't buy a house you can't afford.

A woman at work is buying a $300k house. My reaction upon hearing that was: "What? Is she planning on getting a second job or not using electricity?"

Hi. I am sorry you are having a hard time. I really identify with your wishing that people were nicer and that you had a thicker skin. I have wanted one my entire life, but as I am 38, it probably is not going to happen. This is my first post and I am glad for this site, I can really relate to a lot of what I have read so far.

Welcome Rhonda!

Sometimes I wonder if all the answers aren't that easy. Since they're really a matter of our feelings and emotions, we should control them. Sometimes I can through stupid little tricks like that. Probably how self-help books and religions get started.

Yes, welcome Rhonda.

Thicker skin, I've been thinking about this lately, and I've come to the conclusion that there are so many thick-skinned rhino-people crashing about in the world with not an ounce of sensitivity so some of us have to make up for them with a little extra? Maybe.

I've no advice really but if it's still your dream that you're following, I'd say, do whatever it takes to get you there. Focus on the light at the end of the tunnel? I wish you luck anyway.

I don't think that we can help the thick-skinned people. They don't see us. We are like the fey, but are growing.

You have a goal in mind - you're ahead of MANY many people so be 'aware' of that and remember it. I dont even know what *I* want to do and I'm in a business dealing with taxes and finances - Not where I want to be FOREVER but its where I am, now.

I can give you cliched responses but they are still true. Don't give up, even when things are tough - this will make you a stronger person, in the end, for having gone through it all and doing so 'with your head up' and strong. Always keep your 'goal' in mind, focus on it. Giving up is simply that - your dreams will have shattered, you will only see more 'wrong,' etc. Its SO tempting, I know, but thats why we fight.

Pay attention to the good things in life. Anyone who says they do not see any good are just 'blind' to it. There is good in everyone's life, you just have to let it in. Depression, feeling down, sadness, they cause people to miss these things. I find people who are optimistic tend to miss a lot of 'bad things' or 'problems.' They aren't 'looking' for them.

If you THINK you can do it, aylissa, then there's nothing going to stop you.

A quote from Tom Petty - You can stand me up at the gates of hell - but I won't back down.