do you watch your surroundings in the restroom?

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(Please don't hate me for discussing this. I'm only explaining how I feel and what I went through growing up.)

This might sound extremely crazy - especially given the circumstances of what happened on June 26, 2015 - but the reason why I ask this is because I, as a man with Aspergers, am afraid of going into a public restroom when others are inside because...I'm afraid there may be someone who might try to sneak a peek at my..."ding-a-ling"...or even slip a camera and take a picture/video when I'm not paying attention.

And the reason for this is because, when I was growing up in grade school, there were kids who liked to have..."pee contests" in the bathroom, where they would try to pee in the same toilet to see who can pee the fastest, or see who had foreskin/phimosis...and these people were getting dirty in the restroom... I felt extremely uncomfortable by these people to the point where I nearly wet myself trying to avoid using public restrooms. Several times, from Intermediate through High School, they tried to make me join them in their "contests," but I refused. Then one day, while I was in high school, some moron tried to record my penis while I was taking a leak. When I caught the person, they tried to run, but I managed to catch up to the dude and I swiped his camera. When I confirmed that it was my penis on his camera, I threw his camera in the dumpster to keep the video from being posted online...

It's been 6 years since that happened, and this still haunts my mind that my penis almost got exposed to who knows how many pee fetishists there may be. As for the dudes who tried spying on me and/or make me take part in their "contests," they're are all gay because of this conduct, and I'm told they're still out there filming unsuspecting people and having "pee contests" in the restroom... Heck, I'm surprised these people aren't even on the sex offender registry yet.

I'm sorry if this sounded like a pseudo-homophobic post (that is not my intention), but I don't know where else to discuss troubling issues like this because I wanted to just forget about this painful moment in my life...but the Supreme Court ruling in Obergefell v. Hodges last June thrashed this wound right open...and I wish they didn't thrash it open...

Its normal to be alert when going to the washroom, since you are kind of letting your guard down when you do your thing. Some aggressive people I noticed slam the door and make a lot of noise when they enter, as if to mark their territory or something. Not sure why you are afraid of somebody taking a picture of your dingaling, there are a lot worse things that could happen. I would maybe be flattered.

Hey loyalmoonie.

Given the traumatic experience that you went through, I don't think that what you said or do sounds crazy. When I use a public restroom or even a fitting room, I have a tendency to glance around the stall I'm in for any hidden cameras. I've read the stories, and I'm not going to let myself be careless.

Aren't there usually stalls in there to poop in too? If so, couldn't you just go into one of them?

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I have an awful case of "stage fright" in public restrooms.

If there's someone else in the restroom with me, I freeze up and can't pee at all, even if I'm in a stall. Luckily it's not so bad that I can't go when I'm completely alone in a restroom or in a single occupancy restroom, but it's still pretty nerve-wracking and I have no idea what causes it. It's definitely not any kind of paranoia of somebody watching me, though. I think it's the pure quietness of most public restrooms which makes me anxious...maybe I'm just self-conscious about people hearing me? Only occasionally I've been able to go (in a stall) when it's a really big and busy restroom, like at a stadium or airport.

Interestingly enough, I've had far less problems with pooping in public than peeing. It rarely ever happens, but there have been times I've successfully crapped in small-to-large restrooms, even when I wasn't alone. If anybody could explain to me how that dichotomy works, I'd be grateful.

I really have trouble with airplane washrooms. No matter how badly I need go, I just can't, must be all the tension from flying or something. So I try not to drink anything before the flight.