a child in a adult's body

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Hi, everyone

I am 25. I have accepted that I have Asperger's, but loving myself means growing up. I was not in a frame of mind. I was needy, mute, didn't listen, and asking for attention. I had acted like a 2-year-old child, and I'm in college. I needed to get myself together, because what I did was what babies do. I am not a baby, and yet, I acted like one.

It's good that I loved and accepted myself for who I am so much, but it's time for me to act like an adult. However, it won't work overnight. Being an adult is a process.

What should I do? Any questions/comments?

I would say embrace it and at the same time work with it not against it.

You're female and that gives you a lot of space to work with when it comes to being child-like. By this I mean if a man your age act childish the effect his behavior has on others is always negative opinion. In contrast, a woman can come off as adorable/cute/girly which is something many men find quite attractive. Of course it depends on many factors but overall being very girly/childish in nature is an attractor not a detractor...unless its quite overdone and petulant (aka the difference between a well behaved cute child and one that throws tantrums all the time).

From personal experience I can tell you that my one and only friend is a woman who is very girly in many aspects but also very responsible and adult like in others. She has strong social anxiety issues so socializing for her is rather difficult but when she does, her girly nature and social awkwardness just makes her darn adorable and fun to be with. She's quite clingy, needy for attention, impatiente, hesitatant to speak to people, into plushies, anime and books and not interested at all in pop culture or fashion or any of those things you commonly see 'grown up women' focus on nonstop. She makes her girlyness and social anxiety issues work for her rather than against her though its not breeze for her to do it.

Only you know yourself... so I'd say identify the things you do, list them and then decide which make you look cute/girly and which make you look like that petulant child (or 'baby' as you call it) I mentioned earlier. Embrace the first, work to minimize the second if possible. One step at a time.