Feel Like I am Invisible

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Not only here at WP, where most of my posts and replies seem to be completely ignored lately but in real life too. I am an expert at my job, having been there almost a decade and am generally well liked. Still, my boss continues to make stupid decision after stupid decision again and again. What really gets me frustrated is that a new person made a request to have a safety issue addressed and it was instantly taken care of: it was the SAME ONE I have pointed out for YEARS only to be ignored over and over. We also had an issue where I suggested a $2000 machine be bought to clear ice from the company roof drains last year. I was ignored and as a result almost a million dollars damage was caused last winter as the 6 feet of ice melted one day. What's worse is that little has been done to address what happened: it can and likely will happen again!

Even in more mundane real life, I was playing blackjack at the casino. The girl next to me asked the table for advice, I gave it to her and she ignored and predictably lost. I simply can't figure out why people value my knowledge and intelligence yet pretend like I never even opened my mouth. This is especially true in the Love and Dating forum here. Since I was successful I have tried to pass on the help I received. In many cases my advice was completely ignored as if it wasn't even there. I have to admit it's annoying how I seem to go my whole life like I don't even exist, especially when I have the knowledge and experience to help others.

We are both ignored about the same amount, I believe.

Frequently, people ignore me, too.

It's probably because of the sheer volume of stuff that's on here.

I feel bad that you're ignored at work.

So you feel like John Cena?

I can't reply to every post, but when people respond to me I always read them.

I just honestly don't have the energy these days to talk much to anyone. Be glad you have a girlfriend and a life.

I wish my downstairs neighbour would turn down her f*cking TV. b***h.

It feels like everything keeps going wrong.

..You're liked here, as for RL, I know what it feels like to be ignored too. Try dressing up to stand out and you might get more attention. Sunglasses help me an awful lot, people change totally around me when I have them on, which is almost all the time now. It makes people very friendly to me, as opposed to aloof.

You may have the knowledge and experience, but do you have the confidence to show it?

Thanks for the replies. It means a lot to me!

Well, as an Aspie I would say probably not but most of my being ignored is through written communication. I actually am obsessive about grammar and spelling on the job and write very professionally and in ways that are easy to understand. Ditto with Blackjack girl: I was sat down and wasn't even looking right at her when I gave her the proper strategy.

I wish I knew what I was lacking. Someone suggested getting a ring and putting it on my left ring finger (to look like I am married) and I might give that a try. I'm engaged so it wouldn't be like I was intentionally deceiving everyone. Some people are content to do the bare minimum at work but I am passionate about success and just want the opportunity to show it.

I think if eventually the opportunity will present itself.

I don't know how you carry yourself since I can't see you but what I do know is that most people prefer those who exude confidence over those who are probably more knowledgeable or experienced but less self-confident. That's why many people will follow confident albeit foolish/stupid leaders, especially during a crisis or when there are external reasons for insecurity.

I don't think anyone is ignoring your posts, which have good advice. If it answered their question, they may not necessarily post anything else after.

I know how you feel about work. If you don't work with intelligent people, nothing you do will convince them. Sometimes I feel like my talents are wasting, but its hard to find work where they are needed.

Thanks. It just feels like my advice in the L&D forum gets ignored again and again. Perhaps they aren't willing to learn from my mistakes and want to experience them firsthand. Who knows?


Uh. My coworkers are idiots and my boss (while smart) is like the "bad" kind of Aspie: only cares about his pet projects, his image and anyone "important" in the organization, he has zero people skills and a lot of people I work with are getting upset with me even though my hands are tied by his inability to respond to my messages. He is utterly clueless about what I do and the only time he talks to me is to put a metaphorical fire: usually as the result of a whiny, ridiculous client complaint. I know he is not using me to even half my potential and I am underemployed as it is. I just want to work hard and be successful!