How many of you are mid 20s and still living with parents?

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I feel like people judge me for living at home even though it makes sense for me.

I feel like I will not be able to date. I got a girls number and she agreed to go on a date with me in principal but since then I told her I live at home and have not received any reply. Looks like I no longer have a date.

Not only that but it seems like it makes it harder to find friends.

I thought it was getting more common these days and people would be accepting? Should I just find somewhere to live no matter how crap and move out?

23 and will continue to live with them for as long as I can.

So... people judge. It would probably help to get your own place if you want to be friends with these people... but why?

People have prejudices. It's part of this silly thing called mortality. Recognizing that it's a common prejudice, do what you can to mitigate it. Don't announce it to everyone. How often do other people talk about where they live? Very rarely in the groups I frequent. If it comes up, just treat it like no big deal, as you said it makes sense right now.
Anyway good luck.

I live at my moms house still, I am attempting to move into a subsidized place since I'm on SSI and can't afford to on my own. But haven't heard back on that so not sure how long it will take to figure that out or if I'm I'll figure out something else before then.

Anyways, when I met my current boyfriend he was sleeping on the living room floor of his friends apartment, and I didn't care about that. I also did date a guy who still lived at home before that and he broke it off with me pretty much. Basically its not impossible even if you have a less then desirable living situation...unfortunately there are plenty of people that do see that as a factor but not everyones like that. Also do you have your own room/personal area and are you working or getting some sort of income? and whilst its not good to be judged generally speaking you don't want to delve into financial stuff or complain about it before you've even gone on a date...best to stick to finding out what simular interests you have, what kinds of things they like and things that aren't stressful.

Also they could have taken it as you want someone to depend on financially or that you are depending on your mom and not working or anything which are things that could make things complicated. I even waited a bit before bringing up that I was on SSI when I started dating my boyfriend...and he seemed nervous to tell me about his living situation, but yeah neither of us where judgmental about that.

You could move out if you can afford it though, though I imagine you'll need room-mates because of the cost of living. Or accept that some of them will jude you for that, and remind yourself they wouldn't be worth your time anyways...and continue approaching females IRL and/or online if you want. I know my boyfriend said he had some terrible dates before meeting me but if he had entirely quit trying then we wouldn't have met.

28.. will probaly be with my parents for another 4 years.

This was me when I was in my 20s a long time ago, yes. And I felt uncomfortable about it; family members kind of covertly shamed me for it, turned against me for it, and I also had that problem like you when I met new people, some people didn't pursue contact further when they found out I lived with my parents. One person was openly shocked and kept saying things like "You live with your mum and dad?" It was a long time ago but I think he even called me "not a cool person" or something.

Do not believe that BS. That's cruel and anyone who thinks badly of anyone who is still at home in their 20s is not a person you want as a friend anyway -- that guy who made me feel bad and "uncool" was a jerk.

I believe that people's living situations are completely their own business and none of anyone else's. There are lots of reasons why someone might be still with their family at whatever age, especially these days. It's dramatically more common right now for young people to simply have no way of moving out even if they're working; some cities or local economies have such a high cost of living that it often doesn't even make sense financially to have to find a place to live. In my city even a house share is more expensive than a nasty studio; I personally know an extraordinary number of people in their 20s, 40s and even 50s who live with a parent or in the family home with parents.

Don't feel bad about it. I thought I'd never be able to move out or ever live alone but I did eventually, but even if someone never can due to complex reasons, it's nobody's business.

I'm 20 and I still live with my folks only because I'm going to college. If anyone has a big deal about it. They can mind their own damn business . I know where I'm going with my life and if I wasn't in college. I would of moved out by the age of 22. I went into a temporary job agency in the summer and got a job and have the hopes to get another one for the winter. I have sisters who are also living with my folks and are working. When I get done with my college routine( which should be next year). I want to see if we can all rent a place together. Just because a person lives with their folks doesn't mean they are the most useless person in U.S society. Its quite really the opposite. In my opinion, Its smart to live with your parents while going to college in your 20's than just doing all on your own.

I am 25, my sister is 28, and we both still live with our mother. Until we can find ourselves work, that's what we'll both still be doing until then.

I don't live with my parents but they pay for my rent. I wouldn't say I feel any less judged to be honest, living with your parents just sucks at least for me because of the nonstop drama that doesn't even involve me. There is enough other stigma to go around for me to be a pariah.

I thought I was a freak by staying at home until I turned 29. That until I figured out my ex was 31 and my Fiancee was 32. If they have a problem with that f*** them: living alone is EXPENSIVE! One thing I can say is that neither admitted it until I gradually did the math and asked them flat out. They did not volunteer it and did not see it as a big deal.

I still live at my parents at age 29. If I was in good physical health, I would still struggle greatly to be independent with aspergers, but might be able to cope?(unknown) with just Aspergers and my mental illnesses. However, with my poor physical health on top of everything else makes it impossible. I will continue to be living here for the foreseeable future until my physical health improves, even then being able to live independently in the future is still questionable for me. I pay rent out of my disability if that matters at all.

I have dated 7 women in the past 10 years, but that was when I wasn't as physically ill, owned a car, and a portion of that time I was in school. Now it would be pretty much impossible to find anyone, unless they were in a similar situation of their own. Even then I am too sick to bother with relationships or even most friendships atm.

I think you should consider holding off telling a date you live at home before the first date... TMI. Tell them on the date, within the first two-three dates, so you're not hiding anything (if it's a dealbreaker, it's better to know soon).

Low wages and high rent is making it even more common for people to stay with their family. Even if that weren't happening though, there are many people who do choose to keep living with their family for their own reasons.

There are people out there who look down on people who still live with their parents and start slinging insults at people choosing to do this, and honestly they can all go jump in the mud. Everyone has their reasons for continuing to live at home, and no one should be judged because of it.

I still live with my family. I can't afford even to rent the cheapest apartment around, and I have trouble living alone anyways. I'll probably stay here for a long time.

Most people I've met with the interest of dating live with their parents. That fact alone is not important to me, it's the person themselves and their attitude that matters.

I am, for now. I like living with my parents. But in two or three more years my parents are retiring and leaving me the house. So in other words, I'm going to be living alone and I am so scared! I would like to live with someone like my sister, but she is moving to another state.

I still live with mine but I'm moving to go live with another family member soon. Just to get away from my evil father and spineless mother who have treated me like dirt my entire life for having autism.

I'm 22, and while I don't live with my parents, I do live fairly close to my dad, and I see him on a fairly regular basis. I also phone him up for rides to places pretty often. I almost rented a house he owned in another community because the renter he had before bailed without giving notice, but he managed to get a new one just in time.