How Do i cope with pedophilic attractions?

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im 16, and ever since I was in the 5th grade ive had this... When i was in the 5th grade, I found myself lusting after a 1st grader. In the 8th grade, I lusted after my neighbor who was in the 2nd grade, and now I lust after girls 4-8 years younger... Just today, I noticed a girl who looked like she was 8 when i was with my dad, and i tried not to let my dad notice.... Im asking the mods nicely not to put this in the aduly forum since i am 16 but desperately need help....ive even tried befriending a 10 year old girl at my istanbul center, and when i got home i fantasized about her (and ive done it many times). What should i do. Ps i would never molest a child for fear of arrest and be ause of guilt

Are you able to see a psychologist about this?
I think that would be the best option.

Raleigh, I have been seeing a psychologist for it, but we mostly talk about other stuff and therapy isnt working...

I'll start by saying I won't judge you for merely being attracted to young children. You can't "choose" who you're attracted to and how you think. It's only if you actually do anything against a young child that it becomes bad.

I remember reading somewhere online about therapies for people who are attracted to children (who haven't done sexual things against children) to help them steer away from pedophilia. I don't want to go looking for it though.

The best thing I think you can do for now is to tell someone you trust about these attractions; they may be able to help you find some help for it or whatever.

I agree with the above advice. I don't think you're a bad guy. Get some help. What you say is confidential unless you actually have sexual contact with someone under age 14 or so.

I think you should really concentrate on getting back to regular school and studying. And hanging out with people your age. Don't get angry when someone has a different opinion from yours.

And just calm down, in general.

Ok, maybe your therapy needs to be more directed because this is a serious concern.
In the meantime I would ensure that you are never in a situation where you are in direct unsupervised contact with young girls.
When you say lusting, I assume you mean imagining sexual acts with these girls because you have mentioned molestation.
Iin view of this I would avoid trying to befriend these girls.

I 100% agree with the others.

Be persistent with your doctor that this is the issue you want to tackle. I think this is a serious enough issue that you should shop around for a new doctor, just in case this one doesn't work out. Don't fire your current one, just have a plan B in your pocket. It isn't considered cheating if you see them both at the same time either.

I'm wondering if this thread should be moved to "Members Only."

That way, only certain people can see it.

This is a very sensitive subject.

Lusting after something isn't bad in and of itself; just make sure you don't act on it untill "a girl 4-8 years younger than you" is of legal age herself.

Really, if the point (to you) is that you are attracted to those who are 4-8 years younger, that isn't all bad, once you yourself are 30 orso, which brings your 'interesting age-range' into 22-26, which is perfectly acceptable.
Of course, if the issue is "underaged girls", there is a different point, and you might want to change psycologists...

You aren't a bad guy for this, awareness and admitting these things to yourself are the biggest steps, which you have already taken.
Try to find out which of the two situations i mentioned (4-8 years younger, which happens to be underage, for now VS becouse they are underage) is true for you, and react accordingly, since the 1st situation will fix itself in roughly 10 years.

"Paedophilic attractions"?

Words fail me.

^ He's saying he's attracted to underage girls.

Can you get treatment for it like pills or depo shots to get rid of those feelings?

You know it is wrong so you are not a monster, hopefully you can get the professional help you need and cure this sickness. You are young, things can change and I hope for your sake and any potential victim's that it doesn't lead to something criminal.