My Belongings Were Rummaged Through Yesterday

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And I'm in despair. They are all ruined, I've been crying all day because I've lost so many things.

My parents were nagging me CONSTANTLY AND WOULD NOT LEAVE ME ALONE. I KEPT SCREAMING, "NO, STOP IT. STOP IT" and they would not leave me alone. They kept asking me

THE

SAME

QUESTIONS

OVER AND OVER AND OVER AGAIN.

THEY WOULD NOT LEAVE ME ALONE.

It's like they're saying SHUT THE FLYING F*CK UP. We don't give a F*CK WHAT YOU THINK. WE'RE GOING TO BULLY YOU UNTIL YOU DO WHAT WE'RE TELLING YOU TO DO BECAUSE YOU ARE F*CKING WORTHLESS.

I'm going to have to throw these things away because to me they have contaminated them. Yesterday was the one of the worst days of my life. I will never be able to get over this. I have owned lots of these things for a lifetime and they are all RUINED.

It is like having a robbery. I kept telling them to LEAVE ME AND MY STUFF ALONE and they WOULDN'T.

I can never, ever forgive them for what they've done to me.

I can't stop screaming and crying. I'm so upset. They've effectively taken my things from me and I'll never be able to get them back.

I'm so sorry this happened to you, and I totally get where you're coming from. I understand the feeling of violation of anyone doing this to your belongings against your will and consent. I wish I had found this post earlier as I notice it's been a few hours.

Please don't do anything yet with your things. I know you feel like you need to get rid of it and throw your belongings away after this incident, but please, please wait for a day or two. I urge you to wait because I too have made snap decisions to get rid of something before, and I've regretted it.

On the spectrum, some of us can be very object oriented. Others aren't but that's another way that we are all different. There is a trait on the spectrum though where a person can feel very strongly about their belongings. I am the same way. I feel strongly about my things and there are reasons why; it's how I've been since I was a tiny child. It affects me badly to have violations or for anything upsetting to happen. I also attach to important items especially the older ones that represent my own history to me.

If you are anything like me, please don't throw those things away just yet. You are very, very upset in the wake of this incident happening and it's best not to act while what happened is fresh in your mind and you're still in a bad place emotionally.

Try to hold off on any actions tonight, and try to get involved in any activity that you know comforts you. I hope you're okay.

Hi BirdInFlight. Thank you so, so much for replying, I appreciate it so much, because I am going crazy with all this nonsense going on around me. It really helps me that you totally get where I'm coming from, more than you know.

I've explained more of what went on in my other thread. I guess I should have kept the two threads together, really.

I think what you said is wise, I will hold onto my things and see if I can *rescue* any of them.

In all honesty, I'm not sure whether I'm more upset about how my things were handled, or the way I've been treated. I feel as if I've been treated like a child or an animal. I guess it's all the same thing really.

It is going to take me a long time to get over this.

My mum even asked me if it was a good idea for me to go out yesterday. It's very hard to figure out whether she has good intentions or if she's again trying to control me.

I get the contaminated feeling, thats one reason I hate people even coming into my flat.
My cure is to wash every item they have touched, for me, that undoes the contamination.

How are you doing Smudge?

I like Nambo's advice about washing things to remove that feeling of violation; or if the item is appropriate, using cleaning solution and a soft cloth to wipe things clean. Cleaning an object can go a long way to helping you feel like you've cleansed the bad experience; it can be psychologically quite healing.

I'm crying again.

My mum knows exactly why I am crying, and she acts as if she knows NOTHING and asks what's she's done wrong.

WHAT THE FLYING F*CK DO YOU THINK??? WHY ARE YOU ALWAYS PRETENDING TO BE SO STUPID???????????? IT DOESN'T MAKE YOU GET AWAY WITH WHAT YOU'VE DONE, YOU BI!CH.

How do I clean clothing that's possibly gone against mouldy bathroom things, without ruining their newness? There was a favourite outfit I had on my bed, and I have no idea how it was packed, what it was packed with etc. It's difficult to wash and iron. I spent a lot on it. I'm despairing at what could've been put with what.

That's awful,you were violated.Its like psychological rape.The idea of someone rummaging or moving my stuff around is awful.Id want to punch them.
Once when I was depressed a family member offered to pay for someone to come in and tidy up.I refused the offer,it would have been worse than the clutter.I would have followed them around supervising and telling them what not to touch.If they moved something and I couldn't find it later,well I'd freak out.It would have made a bad situation unbearable.
I wish you had a nice quiet cottage you could chill in.Nothing beats having your very own private space around you.