I feel like I cant grow as a person (shy and awkward)

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I feel as though at 23 I still haven't grown as a person or developed a personality in the way others have.
I have always felt like I had an identity but not a personality. My personality has always been the same, people would describe me as quiet, shy, awkward, robotic, and bland. I have always been told things like one day you will come out of your shell. But after going to high school, doing sports, going to dances, going to college for two years, and working for two years, sometimes I wonder what has really changed since the first day of high school? I have done all these things that supposedly bring normal people out of their shell but I still fell like the same nervous and awkward guy I was in high school. Is there anyone out there that can relate to this and were you ever able to change and become sociable? I know everyone was awkward at one point or another in their life, but is it possible for someone who has been socially awkward for the majority of their life to change?

I understand what you're going through. At 35 I am just really trying to come out of my shell. It's long and difficult, but I am seeing progress little by little. My advice is to just keep at it. There's always going to be some awkwardness but you can learn to overcome it. As you get more and more used to holding conversations as well as being more assertive (my eureka moment came when a boss explained some things to me), that awkwardness will start to matter less and less.