Well My Cat Died

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So my cat died last night in something of a freak accident. Near as I can tell the dog sat on him and broke his neck. The thing is I don't feel anything in regards to it, no emotion, no nothing. It just is. Similar things have happened when close relatives have died and I have to wonder if I'm just numb to the kind of loss that death is supposed to cause. My emotions have always been wonky with me reacting in ways that are very different from everyone else. It really drives home the point that I am an outsider in this world. I keep asking myself why I had to be born different from others and why I have to suffer and fret the way I do.

In my view, death is an easy thing to understand and accept.
More grief comes from dealing with the living.

Just because you don't show emotion in the accepted way doesn't make it wrong.
It's your process.

May that cat rest in peace.

My bird died when I uncorked a bottle of fizzy wine and the pop made it have a heart attack and fall off it's perch.

It's not how you die that matters, it's how you lived.

My bird was happy up until it met it's fateful end as I'm sure your cat was.

We all deal with death differently.

It takes me years to process it all personally but it doesn't mean that the deceased meant nothing to me.

You have to "suffer" from not suffering from grief over the death of your cat? Grief isn't a perk you are missing out on. If you feel nothing versus feeling devastating sadness, who is harmed by it?

It isn't as if the cat died because you behaved carelessly and without your remorse, other cats are at risk. The cat can't benefit from your sadness and neither can you, so what difference does it make?

Plus a lot of so-called "normal" people think nothing of dropping a pet off at an animal shelter, dumping it somewhere, or having it put to sleep because it has become inconvenient, so obviously they wouldn't care if their cats died either or would possibly even be glad to be saved the chore of dealing with it.

Your emotions will serve you just fine Nist.

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I find that people dying, family or otherwise, doesn't affect me as long as I spend more time away from them which in turn makes me less connected, and since I rarely get in contact with people, the effect of death just wears off. I am also at the point of not caring if I die, but I do care what impact it makes on other people which holds back all the suicidal thoughts etc.

Might be an unpopular opinion, while I like cats, Id on't bond over them as I do dogs, because I feel -- which I'm sure likewise for the cat -- that we're pretty much just mutually exploiting each other. If it could, your cat would probably eat you. Whereas I sense more loyalty and affection from dogs, but for the cat I sense more manipulation.

I just feel that the relationship between people and cats is more of a business deal, "alright you give me x kibbles, and x rubbing of under my chin, and I'll give you approximately seven meows affectionately, anymore and I'll have to charge you extra".

whereas a dog it's "HOLY ##%@% IS HOME THIS IS THE GREATEST DAY OF MY LIFE, I CAN'T BELIEVE IT".

So you might just feel what I feel, that the true nature of things is rather paper thin in the cat-human bond, which I really don't think is strong at all.