I feel like a burden sometimes

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I'm 27 years old and I'm hoping to get my regular driver's license this coming year. I just started a job at Publix, a popular Florida-based grocery store, in October. My mother drives me to and from work on the days when I work. I appreciate her for doing this.

Today, my dad said, "Quit whining! The world doesn't revolve around you." That really insulted me. I have to work on New Year's Eve and I'm asking Mom to drive me to and from work, as scheduled. Dad has plans to attend a party and he expects Mom to be there. He missed the said party last year because he had just had an operation and couldn't manage the host's staircase. The year before that, he missed it due to an illness. My shift ends at 8:15. I'm planning to go directly home because I'll be tired at the conclusion of my shift. PalmTran Connection, a paratransit service will be unavailable that night. I could call a taxi, but that'll cost me a pretty penny. I don't want my dad to think I'm selfish. I simply need transportation that night for work. I don't mind working New Year's Eve because it gets me out of celebrating my least favorite night of the year. This is my first year with a steady job ever. Chances are, I'll win the fight and Mom will drive me. However, Dad's comments today greatly upset me. I feel like a burden to my parents and to other people due to my lack of a license and my Asperger's. Do any of you feel that way, too?

If your shift finishes at 8.15 I don't see why your Mum can't drive you home and then go to the party. That is still early for a NYE celebration. Sounds like your Dad is being somewhat unreasonable and unsupportive and that he is expecting the world to revolve around him.

I have some disabilities in addition to Aspergers & cant drive cuz of them. Before I moved in with my girlfriend, I lived with my parents in a rural town with no public transportation. I had no choice but to rely on my parents for transpiration when I was working & for other places I needed to go. I was also pretty dependent due to my distillates & the environment I was raised & living in. My parents defiantly made made me feel like a burden & they made comments about how the world doesn't revolve around me & mom also said that a parent's job is supposed to be done 1ce the kid graduates school instead having a 20something year old living with parents cuz he was too dependent. I'm really glad I met my girlfriend & relocated to be with her. I'm a lot more independent in this environment.

I don't really have any advice for you except it may earn you some brownie points with your dad if you take a taxi. It would show him your trying to consider your parents instead of being completely dependent on your mom for transportation.

At least my parents are never giving up on me. I'm worried about being able to care for myself once they're gone.

My dad's job is stressful and he has a business partner who frequently mistreats him. Therefore, he clings to my mom. He can't even cook or do laundry like I can. I chose to learn such skills so that I could do it as an adult, married or single.

I need work on driving at night. I've never driven at night before.